I told my boyfriend that i wasn't in love with him any more and he was absolutely crushed. He wants to try again and change the way he is only i don't want to. My feelings for him have completely changed, it doesn't feel right when i kiss him or hold him. I really want out but don't want to hurt him and don't know what to do. Can any one please help me?????
2007-01-19 03:35:39 · 39 answers · asked by lasticlegs 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you WILL hurt him, just get it over with!
2007-01-19 03:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check out planned parent hood or perhaps a less expensive birth control pill. Your boyfriend may be able to help you. If you do not want to have kids you need to be on birth control! Getting pregnant could hold you back on your nursing career and how will you afford a babies medical insurance if you can not afford your own? You need to be for real! You aren't going to stop having sex, so staying on the pill should be priority. You'll figure out finances it won't be as bad as you think.
2016-05-24 07:04:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear that this has happened to your relationship but you must realise that it is normal for this to happen and people do grow apart all the time.
I think you need to make a clean break, he will be crushed and you will feel terrible for what you have done but in the future you will realise that what you have done is for the best. You deserve to fall in love again and he deserves someone to love him as much as he loves you. It will be hard, there will be tears, you will doubt yourself as to whether you are making the right decision but it really has to be done for both your sakes. He will ask you to stay but you must stay strong for both of you. One of the hardest thing I ever had to do was leave my ex, he locked himself in the bedroom crying on the day I moved out but I just had to go, and it was hard and i did question myself over and over, but looking back I would do it all again if I had to.
Good luck
x
2007-01-19 03:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by peachybumcheeks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him what you have said here, or write it down and tell him. Dont lead him on or put up with him because you dont want to hurt him, you have already done that by crushing him with "I dont love you anymore". You will end up resenting him and really hating him, and it wont be good for either of you. You have to tell him, and if he doesnt listen you have to make him listen. Ignore his calls, go out with another bloke, dont go to places where he is likely to be. He will soon get the hint, and if he starts stalking/harrassing you, go to the police and get a restraining order on him.
2007-01-19 03:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They weren't lying when they wrote "breaking up is hard to do".
The worst way to do it is by text, phone, or god forbid by e-mail. You need to sit with him and explain that it is over and that he has no chance of getting back with you.
I understand that you don't want to hurt him but you can't keep going out with him because you feel sorry for him - that is not fair on him is it? You also need to face the idea that he may not want to stay friends with you as it may be too hurtful and that you may never see him again.
Once it's over, resist the temptation to call or to find out how he is doing, let him get over you.
2007-01-19 03:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trying to change someone is a complete waste of time--that never works out.
You've already hurt him and you must not cave to any pressure he might put on you.
So if you try to talk to him again you'll just be hurting him some more.
It sucks but that's life.
2007-01-19 03:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mr_B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no way not to hurt him... be as gentle as you can be, but be firm in your actions. He needs to understand that your feelings have changed. But... tell him that it's not him! Tell him it isn't anything he did or didn't do, say he's a great guy... but it's just not there for you. That's about as good as you can do. Then it's up to him to deal with it, at least you're being honest.
2007-01-19 03:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by JP 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be honest and respect that he has feelings but after that a clean break is best no contact or anything this will help him get over you faster, i am sure you want to be friends with him but this will only give him the impression that you might get back together a clean break is best in time you may able to be friends.
2007-01-19 03:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
End it right now!! Don't string the poor fella along. The more you leave it the more he'll be hurt. You'd expect him to let you down gently if it were the other way round.
Good luck. x
2007-01-19 03:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mum-Ra 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to just be cruel to be kind. You have to end it. It's not fair to keep someone hanging when you don't love them. the sooner you end it the sooner your boyfriend can learn to accept it and start to move on. The longer you stay with him the harder it will be for him. Each day your with him is giving him false hope.
2007-01-19 03:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be strong and just tell him its over. there is no point staying with him if he doesnt make you happy coz you would only start to hate him at least by finishing you both could maybe still be friends. Good Luck
2007-01-19 03:39:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋