to make him understand i had enough and that i do love him but he has to change some of his ways...like making me cry alot and saying im not trying hard enough or that im fake..what can i do to make him believe me and also to make him think twice about his actions before he ends up loosing me?
2007-01-19 03:32:57 · 13 answers · asked by dat_sweetmami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's just it honey, you can't MAKE anyone feel the way you want them to.
I recently broke up with bf of 2 1/2 years, it sucks, logically I know that he couldn't be what I wanted him to be, and I the same.
Emotionally, I love him, and am going bonkers without him.
If you have been together for any significant amount of time and he still thinks you are disingenuous, then nothing you say or do is going to convince him otherwise.
Hard to admit, and even harder to do, but maybe it's time
to let it go.
You need someone who believes in you and someone to believe in, otherwise you will be searching around forever for something that just isn't there.
I am sorry that I have no good (what you want to hear) advice, but I see things in a new light now. Still sucks, but I am glad it's there.As will you, I'm sure you will find.
2007-01-19 03:44:52 · answer #1 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You tell him or write him a letter is best, in a loving but stern way, "Honey, I am sad the way things are between us and I feel I have tried my best to work on our relationship. I need more from you in terms of you understanding how your past behaviours have hurt me. I am telling you under no uncertain terms that this will not be accepted by me any longer. You think about this and when you are ready to really come to terms to what is best for us then you let me know. Otherwise you are showing me that you do not care and that you are not willing to work at this together. If this is the case then I will have to accept your decision. I do hope you want for us what I want, if not then I also do wish you the best in whatever you decide." ..........then you need to stand by what you said and not give in to him, do not call him until you see he calls you and gives you what you are asking for which I feel is not unrealistic. If he doesn't and you take him back the way it was then do not complain, remember if you allow people to treat you bad then they will do just that. Good Luck to you!
2007-01-19 11:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you do your best and he still makes you crying, once more tell him that what actions of his make you cry and try to straighten them out together. If he cares about you, he will pay attention to you. If he does not, then it is time to move on, but tell him that if the things do not work without a compromise, you need to go your own way but do not make this appear in ultimatom form.
2007-01-19 11:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by bubi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question! You should tell him about his actions before he ends up loosing you. Sit down with him and tell him how serious you are of leaving him ,if he doesn't start cleaning up his act. If he makes you feel bad you shouldn't be with him.
2007-01-19 11:38:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i am in a similar situation let him know that there are plenty of other guys out there and you love him enough to not take the mess he is giving you a man doesnt change unless in his heart he wants too and WHAT ONE MAN DONT DO ANOTHER WILL
2007-01-19 11:38:56 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do want to be with again? He sounds like a jerk! But that's just me. Listen, there are plenty of people in the world, don't settle for that. And if he really loves you, he wouldn't say things like that. especially if it isn't true!
2007-01-19 11:38:26 · answer #6 · answered by p00mkin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell it like it is. dont beat around the bush. come out and say what ever your feeling! thats the best way to get across to guys. if he dosnt understand then he isnt worth your time.
2007-01-19 11:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by allie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry but think you need to wake up and smell the coffee, he sounds like at total loser.
Ndever mind him loosing you you should loose him pronto
2007-01-19 11:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by bodecia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys are dogs. Kick him to the curb. I'm sure that this is not the first time you told him how you felt and he still continues to hurt you so just drop him.
2007-01-19 11:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by Roxy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try finding a man you can be yourself around.
2007-01-19 11:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋