I have been dating this guy for 13 months now. We are compatible in all but one area. We both like movies, bowling, dancing, and singing.
But lately I have been wanting something more out of the relationship. I have been wanting him to sleep with me. But he says that his religious up-bringing and the fact that his daddy is a preacher won't let him.
Is this relationship worth working on?
2007-01-19 03:32:03 · 17 answers · asked by RoiLynn T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes.
Sex isn't everything. Well, ok maybe it is important. However, if you know you are happy with him now, if he is perfect for you BUT he wants to hold out untill marriage. I say good for him! I think you should respect him on this.
If he is able to commit to this very difficult decision, then you know he will commit to you and that he will never break your heart in the long run.
I don't think it would be wise to pressure him into doing it if he doesn't want to, you could make him regret the decision if he gives in to you. Plus, just think of how special it will be once you finally do get married and do it.
I think this relationship is definatly worth persuing - ONLY if you are willing to respect his decision. That is a hard decision for you to make. Personally I love sex. But if it were important to my boyfriend not to do it, and I was serious about the relationship I would find other means of satisfaction.
There are other options. If he is not agains oral, there is oral. You can also both use your hands. Also, there is nothing shamful in a good vibrator.
I wish you patience and understanding.
2007-01-19 03:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...everyone likes sex. I'm sure he knows that if you had it together he would like it too!
When guys are genuinely in love with a woman they will wait...are you in love or is this just a fun thing for now? Shouldn't the same thing apply even if a guy and girl are in the reverse role?
If you are in love, I think you should get yourself off and give the guy a break. If you aren't, tell him that you need to move on because you have chosen not to wait.
It is really up to you.
2007-01-19 11:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you truly love him don't ask him to give into your temptation trust me if he has been raised in church his whole life and he loves the lord that much you should respect him and his beliefs
don't ask him to choose between your love of 13 months and the guilt he will feel for breaking his Lords heart for a very long time.
Give him a little more time and tell him that you want to be the women to share this moment with him so when he feels that the time is right you think you and him should marry.
Best of luck
DJB
2007-01-19 11:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes......why don't you try being with a guy who respects you? Because if you sleep together, the movies, bowling, dancing and singing are going out the window.
2007-01-19 11:34:29 · answer #4 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you just want to sleep with someone and that's all he's not the one for you. But if you want to take your time in this relationship with a man who respects you and can wait till he gets married to have sex with you well he's your man. But when you go someplace by yourself and have him all fired up, he will forget he is a preacher son and jump you. SO go for it or just move on it all depends if you want to have a man who loves you for you or someone who you just want sex with.
2007-01-19 11:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if everything is good, but you havent had sex yet. If you two are both above age, Why dont you get married??? Religious beliefs are a good thing. They will bring stability to relationships. Good luck
2007-01-19 11:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A real catch will always have one tough problem to work thru. this is yours. now decide if you like this guy you will be willing to wait, but if you are only thinking of your personal needs and not caring about what matters to him it will be a short term relationship.
2007-01-19 11:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by xxgq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are interested in him that much, then you should stick with him. He seems to be the faithful kind and you know his boundaries. If sleeping with you is one of your requirements whether to keep a guy or not, then you should probably look elsewhere.
2007-01-19 11:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by always under siege 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely have respect for such a person. You should respect marriage and all that goes with it.
Just enjoy him and the rest will follow.
2007-01-19 11:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, you should be gald that this guy wants to wait. That could mean he wants to be with you for a long time. You just need to stop pressuring him.
2007-01-19 11:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by XxXTaRaXxX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋