Should I tell him?

Question

I have a mad crush on this guy, Scott. We've hung out a couple times and he's told me I'm cute or whatever. Here's my problem, however. He went through a period of time where he thought he was gay. He said he's not, but he just broke up with his boyfriend, like, three weeks ago. I'm beyond infatuated with this guy. He's talked to me about girls (and guys) that he finds attractive, etc...Should I tell him how I feel or just ride things out? Thanks so much!!

Answer 1

You should him straight up girl right from your heart. he said he likes you then that's the time to tell him.

Answer 2

Well he had a bf and he thinks he's not gay? WOW never heard of that before. But you should just meet him somewhere and tell him how you feel aout him and maybe he feels teh same about you. But also be ready just in case he just wants to be your friend. But I always thought if your a gay and you had a bf you were gay. Guess he is trying to find out if he is with you.

Answer 3

I would give him time to know what he wants. That way you can reduce the chance of him breaking your heart by deciding he likes kissing people with stubble better.

The time he spent being 'gay' could have been just a phase. He could have been trying it out. OR he could have decided that he doesn't like the negative twist society puts on being gay, and has decided to try and switch teams.

Either way, I would guard my heart if I were you. How many years has he been gay for? I would wait that many years plus half before I take my chance.

Answer 4

I had a boyfriend once who I was very serious with and he told me that he thought he may have been bi a few years previous to our relationship. That was tough for me to handle but if you're open about it and talk about it with him (don't tell him you're worried or anything like that, just be open about it and talk to him about it) you'll probably be suprised at how things turn out. Just try not to offend because remember, we can't help the way we feel.

Answer 5

Weirdness...

Females do find a strong bonding element with gay guys, so it's difficult to say that he's not really gay, even if he thinks he's not.

My gut feel is that it would make for a strong friendship (maybe with benefits from time to time) but the gay tendencies will be there and full satisfaction may not be possible for him.

Just my opinion.

Answer 6

ride things out for a while. you dont want to tell him how you feel and then him end up being gay for real. I think you should wait and see how things actually turn out. telling him how you feel could could pressure him in either direction. since you know he is having sexualilty problems you should let him sort through that before giving him more to deal with.

Answer 7

go for it and if his ex comes back you can have a 3 some or maybe change his friend around, or you could live with him and his ex just think you wouldn't have to clean the house and when it's that time of the month he could be getting it from his man.

Answer 8

I thought if you were bisexual you were considered gay? I'm not too familiar with gay culture and how they categorize themselves so I don't know... I think u should tell him but be prepared for the worst.

Answer 9

It sounds to me like Scott is bisexual. If he was with a guy, he can't just turn that off. So if you're OK with him being bi and you think he's over his ex, go for it!

Answer 10

This is heartache just waiting to happen unless ofcource your into bi-sexuals. then there's the disease issues and a lot of junk involved. I'd leave this one alone girl.