Friend and I having a small debate, perhaps we can get second opinons on this?

Question

This question is more for my friend than me, simply b/c I do not drink and he is a party animal.

Anyway so one night my friend and his buds were having a small BP game at his room (I do not drink, so I declined to join). One of the girls got a little too drunk and pretty much fell straight to sleep in her room. So my friend, in all the fun, decides to prank her by sticking a chocolate bar down her pants and letting it melt (a tad immature perhaps).

Anyway, so I kept saying that he could get into trouble for that (sexual harassment perhaps?). He says no, b/c it has been almost 3-4 months and she hasn't told on him (though she did say she would get him back) and that there are guys who rape passed out girls and stuff so he didn't do anything serious or life-changing to her.

So what do you guys think?

Answer 1

I think that is ridiculous. I have no problem with the occasional drunken prank. (However, when I was in College we only did pranks on people we passed out with their shoes still on). However, sticking a choclate bar in a female friends pants while she is sleeping is just unhygenic and ignorant of the female autonomy.

Answer 2

If your friends put a chocolate bar down her pants, she probably has the right to claim a small class of sexual misconduct or some such thing. Since we don't know what state or local laws you have to worry about, it is hard to say exactly.

Certainly, their actions were idiotic, and you never know how a person (male or female) will react to what is done to them while they are passed out.

Honestly, though... It sounds like she may just get even with them in another way, and that might be even scarier than the police getting involved.

Answer 3

I agree with everyone in that it was quite an immature prank.

However, to press sexual harassment charges would be a tad harsh. You claim that this girl hasn't pressed charges against your friend yet (and it has been 3-4 months)? Personally then you and him don't need to worry too much, for as she has perhaps either forgotten about it or probably just laughed it away.

Then again, she could be planning something...;)

Answer 4

It all depends on how the girl reacted. If she passed it off as a joke and she is just going to get him back through another prank, then I don't think he will get in trouble. But since she was passed out and had no control over the situation, she very well could press charges. Sexual Harrasament can range from a hostile environment to unwanted physical or emotional advances. If the girl took this as an unwated physical advance (since he did put something down her pants!) she could probably press charges (and win). Everyone needs to be careful with things like this because you never know how someone will react to this. Being passed out is a bad time to pull a joke.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

lighten up fella he didn't rape the girl . he played a prank.
this behavior is called fun . the girl might have learned not to over drink and who knows this might even end up bring the two of them together in marriage . what a funny tale that would be regarding what brought them together.
you may not drink that is fine . being so rigid is not relax have fun play joke meet girls do silly things and see the funny side of life.

Answer 7

It's not like he was copping a feel... he was sticking a candy bar down her pants. TOTALLY immature and rude but not sexual harrassment.

Of course, in our overly litigious society, it was a really dumb move on his part because she could make his life a living hell if she chose.

Answer 8

if thats all they did then she should let it go or she will become EMO... and if she keeps saying she'll get back at him then she bonified EMO!! so r u if u keep worrying about it..be thankful thjats all it was...most ppl wudda cut off her hair..or glued her hair around her neck,or melted it in her hair..EWWWW...my cousins ALWAYS paint someone up when they pass out...my latest victim was a 51 yr old cousin who LOVES to drink(so we tryna make her quit) so got drunk and started after some guy who totally dinna like her looks but she chased him down he made his escape,she was so drunk she forgot who she was after and then went to sleep...so we painted her face with shoe polish and lipstikk !!! so whut other colour to paint her? weve had many coloured ppl at our parties..lol

Answer 9

Maybe it was a joke, but was it really a good joke? I don't think it was a joke the Almighty would laugh at. If it wasn't good, it was bad. (Though maybe it would make a serious impression on her that she was seriously vulnerable, and cure her drinking problem.--I hope so)

Answer 10

People have been sued for sexual harrissment for saying 'have a lovely day', you can make a court case over nothing it just depends if a judge will hear it.