Will it ruin what we have?

Question

Im really good friends with this guy and deep down I have always secretly fancied him.When we met we were both with people but still became close and told each other everything,he is my best mate and knows everything about me and the trouble I had with my now ex boyfriend.We clicked instantly and there’s never an awkward moment between us.He left for the army the other week, before he went we told each other how we felt and we feel the same about each other,we want to be more than friends. Problem is my ex used to be in the army and I have done the whole weekend dating thing and it was awful with my ex and we both know the crap we have been through with our ex's.This guy is totally different to him though,but I keep thinking what if the same thing happens again?Part of me want to give it ago because I really like him and miss him loads but then the other part says stay clear and just be friends as ive been there before.We have agreed to stay friends no matter what. Advice needed

Answer 1

yes

Answer 2

I say go for it. This guy is not the same guy and therefore you do not know it will be as bad. You have already said you have a different connection so that mean you will both will probably work harder to make it work. How many times have we heard about those that have been together forever were very good friends first. You may ask yourself "what if" if you don't give it a try.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

If when he comes back, you to still share the same feelings, then pursue it further. If not, then remain friends. Since you two are such good friends and you've been through the long distance thing before, you should try to avoid putting yourself or your good friend in that position. If you do, you may end up sacrificing your friendship and the possibility of a relationship.

Answer 4

i would give it a try. although you had a trouble with the other guy don't let it stop you from liking this other one. people are different though you maybe taking the same path. if you se some signs that it's going to take you down that same path then just tell him that you just want to be friends and you don't want to be hurt again. but i would at least try it before i pull out of it

Answer 5

You speak pretty highly of him so I'm assuming you love him. Don't ever let an ex stand in the way of a relationship of any kind. My advice is to give it a chance it beats wondering the rest of your life. Plus if a lucky girl scoops him up you will be kicking yourself in the ***. Good luck!

Answer 6

you know the down side of the situation you had with ex
but that give you the experience to make it work as well
if you dont give it a go you will always look back and regret it
go for it girl ...this could be your chance at love so grab it while you can

Answer 7

Give it a go - if you sasid you'll stay friends regardless of what happens then you've got nothing to lose. If you don't, you might spend the rest of your life wondering "what if". No two relationships are the same.

Answer 8

The question is DO you love him? If yes..Then you stand by your man & wait till he does what he has to do. You be supportive of him. He loves u too aparently so it is my guess that he's missing you just as much. Let things progress, he may ask u to marry & you can go be with him. Trust in your love & have faith in it.

Answer 9

Give it a go. They are two totally different guys. If you don't you will always wonder what things could have been like.

Answer 10

give it a go but try to stay clear of the problems you had with your ex

Answer 11

Ya pays yur quarter and takes yur chance. Better to have loved and lost, that to have never loved. Best of luck.