what should I do if my boyfriend's mom does not like me?

Question

See my boyfriend's mom thinks I'm not good anuff for him but his dad loves me. I don't know what to do. Now she's not even letting him spen time with me and she's driving me crazy.what should I do?

Answer 1

maybe try spending some time with her that way she gets to know you better... but if you do this make sure that you show her respect and be courteous. By doing this, this will help her know that you want to spend time with her son and she will see that you are ok for her son

Answer 2

I don't know how old you and your boyfriend are, so it's hard to answer this question properly.

If you are under 16, then I don't know what to say.

If you are over 20, then she can't really stop him from seeing you can she. Mothers seem to be like that. It happens more then you think. You're steeling her baby boy, for some reasons Mothers appear to be more protective of their 'baby boys'.

The best advice I can give you is be patient and polite. Do not try to fight it, do not get in her face, do not make your boyfriend choose between you. If you need to vent, vent to your own mother or your friends. Although it does feel nice to hear your own mother say that his mother sounds irrational.

Whatever you do, do not give her reason to dislike you. As long as you stay patient and polite, you can win this. Warning: it could take years, it could take untill you marry him have his children and she's on her death bed.

I wish you patience and success. Always find the silver lining.

Answer 3

my mates av had lots of promblems wit b.friends mums and the best thing 2 do is try n keep away from the house she is probably jealous as u r getting all his attention and tthere is not much u can do about this dont try and make your b.friend choose(not that u would the longer u r 2 getha the more she will have 2 accept it atleast his dad likes u thats a start just be as pleasent 2 her as u can then it will b harder 4 her 2 find things not 2 like about u dont worry about either lots of mums are like this about there precious sons good luck

Answer 4

Oh honey... you've just been pulled into one of the oldest scenarios of all time.

I also had trouble with my boyfriend's mother... for nearly two and a half years she didn't like me and thought I wasn't good enough for her son. Sure, she was nice to my face, but would also make slight handed comments and talk behind my back like a child. All I could do was put up with it because I love my boyfriend and it would have been stupid of me to cause rifts between everyone... it would have just made everything worse. I never backed down though and if she said something negative towards me I put on a happy face and acted like it didn't bother me which pissed her off more. Now here I am almost four years later and her and I get along just fine. She has realized that I'm not out to ruin her son or to mooch off of him or suck the life out of him... all I want to do is love him and now that she knows that she loves me too.

All I can say is good luck and stick it out. If you love your boyfriend and you want it to last... his mother comes along with the deal.

Answer 5

That depends. How old are you? How old is he? Have him sit down and talk to his mom about why he likes you. I don't know of any Mom who thinks any girl is good enough for "her boy". Just like I don't know of any Dad's who think any guy is good enough for their "little girl". If he's an adult then she has no say in who he dates or spends time with. But if he's not, then you may have to be patient until she comes around. Good luck!

Answer 6

it depends on the depth of feeling you have for your b/f, as well as your age. if you really love him and are confident he loves you, just start a system with the b/f. tell him what time you'll call the house, so he can answer the phone, or set up meetings at places outside of school or home, and have him tell his mom he's going out with the guys or something. once b/f gets the spine, he'll speak up to his mother and tell her she can't stop him from seeing you. you may also want to recruit the dad on the side to step up to your defense in dating his son. there are ways around everything dear. hope this helped you and good luck to both of you!!

Answer 7

Don't sweat it...so she don't like u..u can try to pls her but it wont happen. There's a positive in this though, He must be THE ONE cuz all moms hate the women their sons are going to marry lol. SEE it's a good thing think positive.

Answer 8

Ask her whats wrong in a very polite manner & dont argue. If she responds negatively, dont be angry. If he decides to live with his parents after marriage, then she has to be happy with you & in that case if she doesn't likes you, it won't be good. If you are going to make a nuclear family, then it wont matter as his dad already likes you.

Answer 9

i was in a relationship where my bf mom hated me as well. she didn't approve of anything i said or did and neither did his brother. but i didn't allow her to drive me away because no one can or will tell me what i am going to do when it comes to the heart.i've tired to make his mom like me by kissing her ***, i did the dishes, cleaned, watched kids, talked to her about anything. then all the sudden i just said **** it i will no longer make you like me. I love your son and there isn't anything you can do to change that. now 3 years later dad loves but mom is still ify with me. i really don't care because i still have my lover. just love him to the fullest and treat him right because one day she will comes around. i think woman do that becuase they are scared of losing their child to another woman. mom's never want to let the baby boy go or any child just hang in there things will change and if not then who cares.

Answer 10

Tie her up and threaten her with various weapons. Tape her eyelids open while you and your boyfriend go through your repertoire of making out moves. That should do the trick.