What things should i do to get my ex outta sight and mind!!!
2007-01-19 02:28:36 · 8 answers · asked by Sammi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The first thing you need to do, is properly assign blame.
The more you blame yourself for everything that went wrong, the more you're going to think about him... to the point where you'll end up wanting him back.
People tend to internalize these emotions. You need to place them appropriately, take blame for what's really your fault and place blame for what's not.
Here's something interesting... write out 2 lists. First, everything that was good about him, that made you happy.
Second, everything about him that pissed you off, annoyed you, drove you crazy, etc.
If you're objective and honest, I think list #2 will be longer... and when you see that, there's something about the visual impact of it. It'll be easier to move on.
2007-01-19 02:34:59 · answer #1 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something you love.
Go shopping.
Read a book.
Take yourself out for lunch.
Go dancing.
Buy some new music.
Watch your favorite movie.
Take a bubble bath.
Think about how great your next relationship will be!
2007-01-19 02:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by astralpen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get busy helping others who are in need or hurting.....
Get busy doing things that make you happy....a hobby? friends?
And last and most important.....find someone to take his/her place! It won't be fool-proof, because who can know your feelings, but it will definitely help to find someone else to love....to go on with your life with.....
Been there.....done that!
I hope this helps you and have a great day! :)
2007-01-19 02:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by mawma7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get involved in other things
hang out with your friends more ! that really helps
make new friends too...that helps even more. i think thats most important. meet new people.
and u'll be happier. you may not get him totally out of your head. he'll still be there somewhere at the back, but you'll be happier and more into your life
2007-01-19 02:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by Layla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there must be something else more interesting than him. finishing is too much better than waking up with nervous, stress, unhapiness, tears, doubts, etc everyday. i think deciding to finish a relaiton is the most difficult period, it is more difficult than healing period. after we finish, we usualy begin to think the good days, sometimes we think bad days and feel jeaousy or anger, sometimes we blame ourselves, the people around us, our life, our conditions, his friends, his family, our family, we blame sun, moon, sky, everything we see and feel in the world. those are the signs of healing period. like we fill with happiness everything when we are in love, we now suffer and hate from everything in case of lack of positive sitimulants. if you know what kind of steps you will pass during "healing" period, you will feel better. it wil be temporarly and it doesnt mean everythng finished in this world. if someoen hurts you on purpose whatsoever reason, it shows he wasnt the right person. in my opinion, the reason behind why we suffer is that good old days; to be loved and cared by someone else..
our lives are full of pains and i hope yours arent that bad. you know frida, for instance, she passed a bad accident, her body was physically suffering and thanks to womanizer diego, her heart has never healed during her life. a lifetime physical pain, health problems, and love pain..or plath..she is cheated on many times and left with her children alone just because of ted hughes. camille claudel, great sculptor lost her mind and dead in a mental hospital because of rodin. many examples...
i dont know what helps to forget..if you are student, you need to motive yourself to the lessons and you need to build up a future on your own. if you dont have lessons to think, maybe you can try to learn something new ; a new language, some cmputer skills, drawing, dancing. you can make exercises. i dont know.. i dotn think your ex who hurts your heart and makes your mind busy is the only thing that you are interested in. you are just thinking him more than usual these days. do you think he is "unforgettable man" ?! when you falled on ground, your knee begins to bleed suddenly, adn you check your knee everyday. you think your knee and accident too much. then you begin tot think and check it less often, then you begin not to check it. it wil be like that for heart too -in my opinion. you need time. if you try to have your mind worked with something else (a book, learning a skill, etc) during this period, the more you will feel better. who cares what the hell your ex is doing now ? you dont need him anymore. it is time to look your own way and save your future now. best wishes..
2007-01-19 03:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out with your friends--join a gym----and think of the bad things that happened in your relationship not the good.....that's what i did and i like being single...
2007-01-19 02:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by melissa m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing not to do is mope around it will only get worse belive me!
2007-01-19 02:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be inlove with someone else
2007-01-19 02:39:06 · answer #8 · answered by splendid izza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋