What is it that guys really look for? I'm only 15, and I've been with two guys, my first relationship lasted 9 months, and the guy treated me like ****, but he still thought I was beautiful. The second guy was immature but also thougt I was beautiful. Now, I'm not very fat, but the thing is I look like i weigh 30 pounds less than I really do, but I still feel like I'm huge, and I cant seem to find any guys that like me for me, instead of my body weight. I'm not ugly, and I'm a very nice person, but why I is that the girls I'm with arent as shallow as the guys I'm with.
So It goes back to my question. What do you guys really want In a girl?
2007-01-19 02:25:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as a girl has some personality to them then that is all that matters to me. I believe that if you can connect with someone on a personal level and not just a physical one then the relationship tends to be a lot more enjoyable. The reason people end up in bad relationships is because they choose their b/f or g/f based on looks alone and never look into their personality. If you can't connect with someone personally then all you are stuck with is someone who has the looks now but wont have them 20-30 years down the road.
2007-01-19 02:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys that age are looking for the same thing males of any age are looking for. Someone they feel comfortable with. Whether it's laughing at their stupid jokes or complementing them on how smart they are. Just someone who you can have fun around and not feel like you're being judged all the time. Of course, looks are a part of it too, at least initially. But good looks wont keep a relationship going. While it's generally true that boys do tend to mature a little slower than girls, you're about at the age where they catch up quickly, so watch out. But hey, you're only 15. You'll be dating lots of guys in the coming years. Someone your age shouldn't be getting serious about any single boy anyway. And by the way. Just where does one hide 30 lbs?
2007-01-19 02:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by Knowitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough... tough question(s)... Looks ain't everything sweetie...and it seems to me you're focussed on your appearance. Sure you're physical appearance is going to lure all sorts of guys to you... but at the end of the day unless the "Inner light" shines through the guys will get bored and move on. Forget about what you look like... and forget about what "he" looks like. concentrate on making the inner you shine, because that's what will attract lthe guy you want. I'm guessing because I'm only getting your opinion... but I'd put money on the fact that you have repeatedly asked these fellas if they thought you were fat... I'll also wager that you spend a great deal of time looking at yourself in anything that will offer a reflection. This points to two things your own "shallowness" or a building self esteem problem which will lead you to an eating disorder. Either way... forget about what you look like (that's not to say you shouldn't care about your appearance)... working on your personal values and making an effort to be kind, and honest with everyone you meet while concentrating on your education will be far more attractive to the "right" guy than any clothes you wear. LIFE's toughest lesson is understanding that we are more than the sum of our parts... and that we need to manage all the parts equally.
2007-01-19 02:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by alex b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of answers to that seeming how every guy is different in what they want. But number one is they want you to be yourself, don't be some fake bimbo or pretend to be super hyper just to win attention, its beyond stupid to even try that. So i'm guessing looks arn't your problem seeming how both guys thought you were beautiful and dating for 9 months at your age has to be some kind of record lol so i think you're on the right track. Be yourself. People will respect you more if you do that and some guy will notice that 'hey this girl isn't like the rest of these fake drama queens' lol you will find a decent guy it will just take some looking, but don't ever settle for one who treats you like s h i t no matter what he says, and for the second guy...come on all guys are immature lol ahhahahah
I look for this in a girl if it helps you any:
1) smile
2) does she make me laugh
3) can she hold me captive by a toss of her hair or sly smile
4)is she smart...gotta be smart or at least witty
5) long dark hair
6) brown eyes
7) someone who can hold her own in an arguement with me and someone to keep me in line if I ever get off of it
8) someone who loves me back
9) someone who isn't afraid to be themselves
10) and someone who isnt afraid to speak her mind and tell me the truth
2007-01-19 02:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by sirhc221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys want that chemistry, that spark, that feeling that they've done something right or good. Guys like the ones I'm talking about have what's called a trifecta. In this trifecta there are only three, the intellecutual, the physical, and the emotional. In this case all three have to even out. You sound mature, hell if I were old enough I'd get with you.
2007-01-19 02:37:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time guys at that age either dont really know what they want or only want one thing...you can probably guess what that is...but ill be frank with you...theres hardley any chance that your gonig to get the relationship that your looking for at the age you are...just date only those that you like not ones that ask you out and see what happens...but at that age guys only want one thing in a girl...for her to put out...
2007-01-19 02:31:44 · answer #6 · answered by Doug110982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls mature quicker than boys!! a 15 yr boy is still about 12 internally
2007-01-19 02:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by Jure 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you talking about guys who just wanted to score from you and you let them,sometimes you have got to take it easy its not because guys will say your beautiful doesnt mean they like you,that word will often be used just to score,so wake-up your only 15 dont waste yourself with guys who just wanted a piece of you,
2007-01-19 02:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A girl that connects with a guy.
2007-01-19 02:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by Opas 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will, in time, find a man that you won't need to validate you. You are lovely, happy and phenomenal. You don't need someone to tell you what you already are.
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2007-01-19 02:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by Sir J 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋