How many failures should I take before giving up?

Question

I'm talking romantic failures here. I never get past the introduction phase. On rare occasions I get an evening out and then it's over.

Am I a street vagabond or an ugly monster? .

Not exactly , I'm 39 years successful professional , better-looking-than-average , richer-than-average with a Mensa membership.

And , I've had over 25 rejections , never ever a single "yes".

should I just give up the whole dating scene and just dive into classic cars , expensive watches and charity work ?

My heart weeps...

Answer 1

First of all, don't try so hard. And please....don't bring up the mensa membership...it really does sound like you are a little arrogant..even if you aren't and you only want a woman to know you are bright. No one goes out on a date to get someone's resume, and i don't know why, but I get this feeling you are trying very hard and talking about yourself more than you should. Take it easy, relax before every date and remind yourself that you are going out to get to know someone, nothing more. It will likely not be mind blowing and if you set yourself up or plan it out too much a woman will sense this and be a little freaked out. It is good that you think you are good looking and bright - just remember that, do more listening and less talking and don't come on so strong. If you like the woman, tell her you'll give her a call...and wait at least three days...some guys can call right away, but I get the feeling you should wait. If you don't like her, just say that it was nice to meet her and leave it at that.

I knew a guy that was gorgeous, kind, smart and I thought maybe it would be interesting, but I sensed he wanted a girlfriend so badly and he told me about his history a little too soon...left me turned off like you wouldn't believe and it didn't make me feel special. When a guy wants a girlfriend, a woman doesn't feel special because she wonders if it is her or if it is the neediness. He tried so hard, but he already made that mistake that can't be corrected.

On a date, listen to her, be respectful, play it cool, act interested but not overly attentive and don't wait around for a kiss with a big goofy smile on your face. If you think she is feeling it, go for it and tell her you'll call, if it is awkward, kiss her hand or ask her for a hug and walk on.

Finally, this is going to sound terrible, but if you aren't doing it already, a good masturbation session prior to a date will help you relax. Hope this helps. Don't try so hard...that is the key.

Answer 2

Um know, I would say that there is something wrong with your approach. If you can't break the ice, then you need to come at it a different way. You sound a bit cocky, that works, but if you are looking to be the nice guy, then that cocky act won't work. When you go into introduce yourself, stay calm and laid back. Don't chat her up to fast, take your time, since you are a smart guy, look to see if the women you meet talk back, and further more have something to bring to the table conversation wise. but look at statistics, if you meet 100 women, at least 12 of them will go on a date with you. True the odds are not the best, but one is bound to go out on a date with you, and further. Hope this helps. thanks

Answer 3

You shouldn't give up ever.. someday the right person will come your way. maybe you are trying too hard.. that's a turn off..

Do you always tell your dates that you are in mensa? Do you just talk about how good and intelligent you are.. Maybe that is the problem..

don't give up.. I'm sure love will come your way..

Answer 4

No i wouldn't give up. Maybe your approach is wrong, maybe women are intimidated by u. Don't present yourself so strongly. Be yourself and come across as totally approachable. You may be scaring women away. It's not "what u have, or what u have achieved" that initially attracts a woman. If you come across as fun, open, sincere and friendly that is much more inviting. No woman is attracted to a guy that is too into himself or thinks he is "all that" Good luck

Answer 5

hey, never give up my friend. love has no time or never stops working. maybe you should sit back and ask yourself, what your doing wrong.
maybe its the way you make the other person feel. sometimes being successful isn't always a way to win in love. Maybe you think being wealthy can get you everything you need. but as the good book say, money dosen't always by happiness, its a curse. so think about it my friend. maybe your afraid to lose what you have and afraid to give it up for love. but always look to your heart for the answer, its there. You just need to search for it.

Answer 6

Maybe you're gay and in denial. Women pick up on it instantly and run like the wind. Maybe you're just a super nerd who is socially inept and a constant source of embarrassment.

Answer 7

Never give up!
I thought the same until I found my wonder woman.
We're married 37 years now.
It only takes one to make you happy!

Answer 8

What is it you're actually looking for? If your that smart, it should be easier to find. Maybe you can't see the trees for the forest, ya know?

Answer 9

ok i know im too young too know considering im only 14, but listen, noone should ever give up love, there is someone out there for you just waiting for you to find her, wait, because trust me the wait is worth it.

Answer 10

You know why the delay......
God has kept the best for you.
Start smiling...happiness on the way.