I tend to hang out and become just "one of the guys" a lot of times. I don't hang out with many girls because I find them petty and annoying. I think though because I am more guy friendly in the friend department I think that is causing guys to look at me in a different light. I don't think I am bad looking and most of my guy friends tell me how pretty I am, but I just can't get guys to ask me out. Honestly if I actually like a guy I can't talk to him...then once I feel comfortable around him to talk he just treats me like a friend just another one of the guys. What do I do? I am pretty intelligent and can carry on a conversation. I don't want to have to subject myself to everything I dislike about girl in order to get a guy to ask me out. I need help!
2007-01-19 02:17:03 · 6 answers · asked by Erin B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dress feminine...I am known for the fact that I am rarely seen without heels on. I just have a tendancy to look like I am the Lioness in her pack of lions(a bit reversed) because me guys are very protective of me so I have learned. I know they wouldn't hinder a guy from approaching me if he tried but it just looks like they would.....which makes me seem rather unattainable..I think.
2007-01-19 02:31:26 · update #1
I have asked guys out and I am done with that...it makes me feel worse. Because when I ask them out I never hear from them again as if I scare the s*** out of them. I am not sure I can face that again.
2007-01-19 02:41:49 · update #2
i know EXACTLY what you mean. I am the exact same way because I'm basically a female jock...and I'm always playing football, and basketball and whatever other sport guys will play. use this to your advantage. you can talk about you guy of interests favorite sport or sport player. get comfortable enough that you can talk to him. show him that you're not a ditz and that you can carry a meaningful conversation....that's not about sports. if the conversation goes there then so be it. Don't change yourself just to date one guy...because when that ends then the next guy may not like what the first guy likes and you will be constantly changing yourself and eventually lose your identity. a sad ending.
or you could just date outside of school. find a guy who DOESN'T know you as one of the guys. even if you're really passionate about guy stuff, try not to be so intense with said new guy...then you can gradually show that you know about sports and paint-balling and stuff.
2007-01-19 02:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by LadyT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're actually doing all the right things without even knowing it...I'll tell you why...
Most of the guys that you maybe interested in are probably "players" and know not to try any BS with you. Please don't start acting "silly and petty" to try to get a guy. That is the worst form of faking and it probably won't look good on someone as honest as you. I think you will find what you're looking for or better yet, it will find you. Don't sweat not having "a relationship" just to be in one. Have fun with your life.
2007-01-19 02:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends first and lovers second. You don't need to do "things" to get guys to ask you out. But it wouldn't hurt if you asked a guy you especially like for a little more attention one-on-one. Can you say "Y'know, _____, it might be possible for me to think of you as more than a friend to hang with (or some suitable, currently acceptable words). Try it, you might like it!
2007-01-19 02:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to change your appearence with these guys.... dress a little more sexier, be a little more femanine, and flirttatous.... you can still have your friends and hang out as one of the guys, but remember, your not one of the guys.....your one of the girls...so if they happen to make a dirty joke in front of you, make sure you jokingly, but truthfuly tell them to zip it bc they shouldnt say things like that around a lady.... when you all go out on a friday nite, make sure your outfit, is an outfit he will remmeber... you have closed yourself off to these guys, they cant remember the sexy female side...so re-open their eyes....you dont need him looking out there for a girl, when there is a beautiful sexy smart hard working one, standing rite before his eyes...just revivie urself a bit, and trust me, let the testostrone do the rest of the talking.
2007-01-19 02:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by SassyGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way. I'm just one of the guys. I hate hanging out with girls.......I have girl friends, but not very many.
Just keep going like your going and pay him alittle more attention, be a little more flirty towards him....
Good luck!.
2007-01-19 02:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave and ask a guy out. If they're not coming to you, and you're just one of the guys, it shouldn't be too difficult to say, "Hello, I'm available!!"
Pick the guy you really like, casually mention you like him, and see if he takes the bait.
2007-01-19 02:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋