I feel so excluded where I'm working.?

Question

I’m a temp and so are 3 others. Granted, I leave at 4pm, but this morning I came into work and found that everyone had been given a beautiful basket of fruit, except, who do you think – me! I feel so horrible. They came and handed them round after I’d left and I’m the only one in the office who hadn’t received one. I feel so embarrassed. How do I feel better about this? It was the same at Xmas, I was the only one who didn’t get invited for the Xmas lunch.

THANKS all - I had a bit of a cry in the toilet. Yes, the other temps got them, but I was the only one who didn't. Never mind -deep breath, chin up!

Answer 1

Three things in human life are important. The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind.
people like that are human forms of s--t.
dont worry just be you.good luck

Answer 2

The other temps got them too, while you didn't? Or all four of you didn't?

Since you aren't there after 4 pm perhaps whoever sent the fruit baskets was unaware of you being there.

If not , I'd speak to your supervisor and tell her/him you think it's very rude not to INCLUDE everyone when special days or treats are being handed out whether you're a permanent placement or a temp. That's just rude and should be an indicator to you that perhaps you may not want to work for this company permanently.

More than likely however nobody's even thought about it or how it looks.

Answer 3

I hate to tell you this but most "temps" get treated pretty crappy by the full time people. Most of the time they figure why spend any money or put out the effort, the temp will only be here a short time. Now, if you have been excluded and the other temps have been included then maybe you should hang around the office until 5 when everyone else leaves, try starting up a conversation with the other temps, try going to lunch with one of them. Put yourself out there, don't leave it up to everyone else.....

Answer 4

I'm afraid that this was a personal thing done against you and it sounds like jealousy. Maybe a jealous co worker prompted this action or it could have been the supervisor alone. You should consider it a compliment that by you just being you, you have rented space in someone's head. But since you're a temp, my suggestion would be to find other employment as soon as you can. You have no idea what this other person plans for you. Ultimately, their goal is to have you fired or walk off from the job.

Answer 5

I've been in your spot before!! Unfortunately there is nothing you can do about freebies except be there when they are being passed out. In my group, if anyone is missing I try to always look out for them and get them one of whatever it is, too, but not everyone else always looks out for me!

Well...if you are somewhat friends with any of the other temps, tell them jokingly, "Hey, the next time they're handing out fruit baskets, help a sister out here!"

Or, if you see everyone in the office has something that you don't, say (in good humor of course), "Hey! Where's mine?" This might give SOMEone you work with the hint that you feel kind of left out and maybe they'll look out for you next time.

Beyond that, you can't really make a big stink about it without being seen as a whiner :-(

Answer 6

Sorry to hear about that but it's kind of the nature of being a temp, isn't it? We've used a few temps and the truth is, you don't bother to get to know them very well because they'll be gone soon. The other people you're stuck with. In a way, it's not bad to be a temp because if you work with a jerk, it won't be for long.

Answer 7

It sounds as though they're just not treating you as a part of the workforce. I bet the cleaners didn't get fruit or invited to the Christmas lunch either.

I was once a temp where someone went out to get cakes on his birthday, and I was the only person not to get one. Some people are thoughtless; others are just plain nasty. I don't know which applies in your office. Let's hope you get offered somewhere nicer soon.

Answer 8

If they gave them out after you left then of course you won't get one. There is no way to feel better about it. Most employers will give their full-time employees bigger bonuses, more raises than the part time or temps. I am part time and i got a xmas bonus of $50 and this one girl who does not do her job who is full-time got $100. I think that it is not fair but that is the way stuff happens

Answer 9

Maybe mention something to the temp agency. Sometimes it's safer to go to them with issues that the people you are temping for. Let them know what is going on because they (probably) have a longer work history with the company and have a better chance of making changes. Good luck!

Answer 10

How nasty. There's no excuse for that behaviour, i speak from experience: temps have feelings too! There's a million other jobs you can go for, if it's really upsetting you then don't be scared to walk away. There are so many other jobs that will both pay well and have the other workers showing a good attitude.

Answer 11

That is really crappy. Start looking for another job, it shows that they meant to exclude you, because they could have left it on your desk once you were gone. I don't say this to upset you more, just that I'd interpret it the same way you did. Seriously, look for another job. You deserve to be treated well.

At the same time, these are your co-workers, not really your friends. You have more of a right to feel upset if it were your best friend giving out the fruit baskets.