2007-01-19 02:15:28 · 10 answers · asked by BIG U 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wish I could answer that. I trusted a good friend for over 15 years, she burned me once but came back into my life with a web woven of apologies and lessons learned. So I let her back in. To find out she did it again.
Honesty, from both sides, that's the only way to have trust. Try some experiments, ask her about former boyfriends. Ask why they broke up. If you get any "I don't want to talk about him" then you have something to be concerned about. Watch areas where they refuse to talk, of course anything you ask of her, you better be prepared to answer yourself.
Another good question is "How many people have you had sex with?" Make sure they know you're not looking for quantity itself, just their ability to answer it. It it takes them a long time to say something like 4, then you might want to think about it. Or if they outright refuse, another warning sign.
One of my warning signs was 4, I knew three of them, but I didn't know the fourth, so I asked. Oh, I don't want to talk about him, he's not important. (DING! Warning sign!)
2007-01-19 02:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tragicfame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can really tell you how to trust. I had a hard time with this for the longest time. I always had walls up. Finally I met my fiance', and he showed me that I could trust him. It's a hard process, and you will probably get burned a few times. But once you do let your guard in and trust that person, it is an amazing feeling.
2007-01-19 10:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by Brat_20_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to date someone you have to trust them, if there is no trust in your relationship then really there is no point in dating that person, but if you feel a conection and that person feels the same way then you are set, if you feel you trust them but you do not feel that kind of connection then she is simply not the one. live by this because i never give this much of an explanation, ever
2007-01-19 10:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by freeky and lovin it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First think, the apostrophe does not belong in "realtionships"; don't use it to make a word plural.
To learn trust, show you can be trusted.
2007-01-19 10:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by supertop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to jump in. show your mate that you have trust for them, and let them know that they can have as much space as they need as long as they are completely upfront and honest with you. then as time goes on, draw the rope in more and more until your absolutely positive you can trust them completely. then you know your at a good place. ( and dont ask who, what, where so much- drives 'em away)
2007-01-19 10:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by wp_ashro7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to learn.you have to have that feeling in yourself.No relationship will keep going without trust.
2007-01-19 10:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its something you build with someone
at first trust them to show up, be honest, and to be nice
then trust them with your emotions a bit if you want
then part of your heart
then maybe all of it
2007-01-19 10:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just know you arent doing anything wrong. If that person is right for you everything will play out. If they are wrong- you will walk away a better person!
2007-01-19 10:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by amanda8410 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there has been nothing to cause you to mistrust then trust.
2007-01-19 10:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole thing is a roll of the dice. Be open.
2007-01-19 10:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋