here's what i got, my girlfriend lately has become so distant and cold. if i try to hug her she doesn't return it, if i try to kiss her she keeps it short. i've asked if anything's wrong and she gives me an absolute NO. if i give her space and stay away she's all over me again like she loves me,when i talk to her on the phone it's as if i disgust her so if i go out she's calling me every 10 min, with "i love you i miss you come home, all that. but her actions don't seem to show it, i'm in a bind because i truly love this girl, and this isn't how she was when i met her, she has just suddenly changed from someone who can't get enough of me to someone who can't stand me, but then again, she pushes me away and then pulls me back, i can't get a read on this girl and we've been together for a long time so i definitely notice a difference,why the sudden change??
2007-01-19 02:11:12 · 11 answers · asked by me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't mean to plant a seed, but you may want to ask her if she has been faithful.
It sounds as if she is disgusted with herself when she pushes you away or that she is trying to distance you from her in order to justify her actions. When you leave, she is probably worried that you're going to be unfaithful to her and wants you home as soon as possible.
Then again, that's only one scenario.
The bigger and most prominent issue seems to be her INSECURITIES.
Good luck.
2007-01-19 02:17:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
People treat you the way you let them treat you. Example, if someone pouts and gets your attention she says to herself "hey this works, now I know how to get my way"....She is messing with your head, playing games, trying to see her power in the relationship. Do not respond to negative behaviour or you will get negative results. See when you didn't respond to her negative behaviour she started calling you. If her behaviour is positive (meaning good) then by all means respond to it, if not show her her games will not work. Next time she does not talk to you, instead of being all worried, just tell her "call me when you are willing to talk". and do not call her. You have to show her from the beginning of your relationship what behaviour you are willing to tolerate and which ones you are not. Set your boundaries from the start or she will be this way always. What doesn't work she will not do again. Good luck to you and let us know what happens after a couple of weeks. Trust me, what I say works.
2007-01-19 10:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's playing games. Take control and call the shots. Ask her whats up again if she says nothing then you tell her i'm not stupid and you been acting like a harpie. So when you decide to straighten up your act call me. Until then I'll be out looking for someone who isn't going to give me this juvenlie drama.
2007-01-19 10:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by Cybrocupid 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds as though she might be angry (VERY angry) about something and she doesn't feel she has the right to be angry or upset about whatever it is and so is in conflict. It may be very difficult to get to the bottom of it but you can probably do it by NOT asking what's wrong but "What are you feeling" "Can you talk about why you feel so far away from me" etc. etc. A counselor would help if you can get her to go see one with you.
2007-01-19 10:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's caught between you and someone else....no doubt about it...that would explain the upswings and the downswings. She wants her cake and wants to eat it too.......confront her, if she gets really mad......she's cheating......anything else,like hormones... and good luck if it's the old hormone thing.....you have a life of hell waiting.....I guess anyway you look at it your screwed.....hey sorry, Yep...I do what I can......then I just move on!
2007-01-19 10:42:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most i can come up with is she's cheating but she don't wont to be cheated on!! so its kinda like she can do it but you can't.. maybe y'all should talk! and let her no just how you feel about the way she is acting.. then if shes still distant then let her no ts about to be over if she don't change.. yea you love her but you deserve better than to be treated like a play mate!!!
2007-01-19 10:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by *cowgurl up* 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can be many things, maybe she is hormornal, and needs to see a Dr. to find out what is going on? Maybe the two of you could go to couples therapy together, and discuss your issues. Best Wishes!
2007-01-19 10:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Janice 10 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Apparently someone here on Yahoo! Answers told her to play hard to get. What girls don't know is that playing hard to get makes it easy for us to get out. If she keeps it up, maybe you should reconsider what you're doing with your life.
2007-01-19 10:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds wierd.. maybe u should talk 2 her friends, maybe she has some problems but its hard for her to tell u. or do u talk to her mom?? moms usally know everything bout there kids... well good luck!
2007-01-19 11:32:54 · answer #9 · answered by lsfrssn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe she is cheating on you
2007-01-19 10:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋