I have been dating a guy who disappeared during the holidays (Christmas) and then magically reappeared after MLK weekend. When he called he changed the subject when I tried to bring it up so I left a message saying I wanted to see what was going on with him since I did notice his disappearance and was not okay with it and wanted him to call me back to talk about it. Should I expect a call back? How do men respond these types of things? What is appropriate to leave on voicemail?
2007-01-19 02:05:57 · 13 answers · asked by Nic79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're going about this completely the wrong way.
You can not force an answer from a guy. He will see this as power..and he will try to exploit it. The more you want to know, the more he is going to want to not answer you. It will become a game.
First, resolve to be "okay" with whatever answer you get. But to really push his buttons...ignore him.
LET ME REPEAT. IGNORE HIM.
Men hate that, and he will give in to it..but you have to remain calm and patient. This is key. He will eventually spill his guts...when he thinks you don't care anymore. Men can be like kids sometimes...you have to "trick" them in to thinking something is their idea. Then he'll be eating out of the palms of your hands.
Trust me. It works...every time. Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-19 02:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since everyone just says dump him, let me give you another take. Who knows what was going on during that time. He may have had a family emergency that he needed to attend to. And some people just need to be left alone. I know it is hard for you to understand, since he has been very quiet about it, but I would talk with him. Just be subtle, if he can't talk about it openly, then it really may be something that's bothering him. I think he will call you back, but if he doesn't, don't sweat over it, if he is not willing to put in the time to explain himself in some way, then you shouldn't have to wait. Hope this Helps. Thanks.
2007-01-19 02:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy you are dating should come up with the reason and speak to you regarding his disappearance from your sight. Until then theres no point in contacting him. You shouldn't be expecting a callback, as you may get disappointed. Just focus on something else which is important to you. If he is in good terms about you then he will comeback or contact you regarding his disappearance. As i could see only patience and silence can make a guy think!
2007-01-19 02:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its either black or white, it he still have interest in u he will call back ...but whether he has something that he hides (I don't know) if he has a normal circumstances that made him disappear then usually he will talk about it and normally...but if he is hiding something he will try to find an excuse....and u will feel if it was true or not...usually these type of men they will do it again and again and again (the disappearance)....and if you want to leave a message which I don't recommend...then it will be ...hi just wanted to know if everything is OK with you!!!!
2007-01-19 02:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you say things face to face and not through voicemail? Messages leave a lot for interpretation so best say what you mean while you can see his responses.
2007-01-19 02:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-07 09:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by wiemer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably will not call you back because it's approaching valentines. Dump the loser. I would not want him to call me back.
2007-01-19 02:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds you are being played. Have you ever been to his house? Do you know were he works? Do know any one in his family? Guess not, RUN.
2007-01-19 02:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by Ti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just forget about him. If you know he is ok then just move on. Obviously he doesn't want to be with you.
2007-01-19 02:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by High on Life!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch him, he was off visiting some relatives with another chick.
2007-01-19 02:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋