should i let go..?

Question

its been 9 months since i got dumped..should i let go already? i cant accept the fact that he dumped me, i dont know why he did. i wanna know why. i want him to say the truth, if it means that he never really felt anything for me. i dont want lies. but recently he's disappeared..maybe tried to stay away from me? not interested anymore, or never was? found somebody else? why's it so easy for him?
i wanna let go truthfully coz i hate getting hurt when i remember.

Answer 1

get over with it, serious he is gone

Answer 2

My best friend is going thru the exact same thing...so i know what your feeling... the hard thing is letting go sometimes... its def. easier said than done when people tell you to "just move on" and go out... but the truth of the matter is, you cant let him go bc you dont have any closure as to WHY he broke up with you...therefore, in your mind, your always wondering who what when why how.... you have to sit back and analyze your self, you kno that you were a good gf, faithful, ect... most likely, when guys break up so suddenly, its not bc of you....its bc of himself...maybe his heart changed, maybe he is just immature, how old is he by the way?? you could try to email him, DONT approach him anymore...and dont call him..just leave him a calm email that says, hey how are you doing, ect ect, ive always wondered why you did what you did and why we broke up... things in life are going good now, but i think you owe me the decent explanintion, bc we spent *** months/yrs or whatever, time together... this way u can take ur time with the email, but dont make it a novel....guys have a short attention span.... and dont expect an answer the same day or the next day...he will take a week, knowing the way most guys are.....

whether he emails you back or not, you need to accept the fact that you two are no longer together...start hanging out with your friends again, and go out with guys and girls, and live a life without love for a bit...the heart is 100% capable of healing, if you let it do what it needs to do. reguardless of how your ex decides to handle the email situtation, you need to start living your life....
and just for the record, it is normal to be still crushing over someone way after 9 months... just try to help yourself, and go out with your girlfriends.....and Cry...cry when you feel like crying...it really does help, have the reason you may not be able to move on is bc you hold in your tears, thinkin that it will let you forget him and move on....but as long as u have tears that want to roll down ur checks, let them...bc it is then, that you will cry cry cry, until you realzie, that you have nothing further more to cry about.....


please, please, just take my word for it and listen to this song:
make sure you read the lyrics, and also hear the song play...please:
Stacie Oricco--"Im not missing you"

Answer 3

Listen, I know how that is. I have been out of this relatioship for 3 years and I still think of him. I have found somebody new, but everynow and then I hear a song that will take me back. I know this is hard for you but time is the healer of all things. If he is trying to avoid you and you keep being persistent then maybe you should stop. He clearly wants nothing more to do with you. Try doing other things and staying busy. Good luck, sweetie.

Answer 4

Yes you should let go. Think of it as a blessing in disguise. I know you're still hurting now but everything passes away. You are meant for a better someone. Make this bitter experience a way for you to be a better person. It's not easy to be dumped. Prove to yourself t's his loss not yours. Be strong and always have faith.

Answer 5

After 9 months I would say that he has moved on and I seriously suggest you do the same. There is no sense in dwelling on why it happened because you will just drive yourself insane. You need to focus on future positives not past negatives. Start looking for someone else that you will enjoy spending your time and start new. He is old news...try picking up today's paper!!! good luck to you

Answer 6

All those feelings and thoughts of yours are pretty normal and are part of the recovery process we all go through. It SEEMS easy for him because you aren't in his shoes and don't know what he's going through. It was his decision so he's been, in effect, separating for quite some time before he told you so he may be ahead in the recovery process. The hurt feeling is a good sign and you'll get through the tough times.

Answer 7

None of that matters. The why does not matter at this point. Stop obsessing about it and move on. Don't try to figure it out, you'll only be wasting time. Whatever the reason, it was his fault and had nothing to do with you.

I suggest watching High Fidelity. It might help put your mind to rest.

Answer 8

Know it is eating you up, but you must move on and stop beating yourself up! My wife left me 14 yrs ago and still has never given me an answer even though we have 4 kids!! so let go and you WIll find some else and life will be good again!!
Good Luck
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Answer 9

Yes, it must have hurt but still pining after nine months?????
You've really gotta let go and get on with your life.
Seriously. He's going out of his way to avoid you as you're obviously haunting him. It's not healthy.
I'm sorrt if it hurts to hear this but you have to face reality and the fact that he's not coming back.

Answer 10

Sometimes we have to "close" these things ourselves. Guys are notorious for leaving us standing there scratching our heads and wondering what we did wrong. Sitting around dwelling on it is unhealthy. Find some new friends or get involved in something fun. Try fishing! I love it and there are always lots of beautiful, helpful men around.

Answer 11

He's disappeared because that is what users do after they're through with you. You are going to have to accept it as over and move on...he has.