I'm talking to this guy, we've been "friends" for about a year. Just recently we started getting closer than before we call each other more and see each other alot more than we used to. He shows that he cares a lot more like by telling me things like I need to put on socks before I get sick. But he only comes to see me after hours so I'm not really sure if there is anything there. However he is a very busy person and I know what he does will keep him out late at night because I've gone with him before, but is there anything more? I just don't want him to think I will be on the sideline without a little more than a bootycall.
2007-01-19 01:57:16 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We did not discuss that we were friends with benefits we just were. I just don't want to waste my time. Thank you all for your answers and your help.
2007-01-19 03:43:00 · update #1
The only way you're going to figure this one out is to talk to him. Ask him if theres something more there. It will save so much time and thinking and you'll know straight away whether to pursue the relationship or not.
Good Luck
2007-01-19 02:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its funny actually that someone would ask this cause a few years ago i was in the same boat. my husband and i started out by being friends 9 years ago....then we started having a physical relationship about 2 years ago and have now fallen madly in love.i was always told that it wasn't possible but sometimes there are exceptions to the rule and you know what, we are the exception. i want to give you some advice telling what you want to hear but unfortunately i can't. with most guys if you are just friends with benefits then that is all you are....girls tend to think of sex as an emotional connection while guys see it as a release of pent up...agression or something. i'm sure he does care for you but probably not in the way you want him to care. i don't know a remedy to this situation because every situation is different, but i have found that by giving someone time, being thier friend and not expecting too much maybe something will eventually turn up....maybe it won't.
good luck to ya!
2007-01-19 02:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by lola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, friends with benefits are the perfect candidates for a long-lasting relationships and even marriage. When people are not looking to officially claim a girlfriend, they stumble upon someone who starts off as a good friend which eventually might lead to something without the usual 'dating rules.' I met a girl in college, became very good friends with her...we ended up becoming friends with benefits but never officially said we were going out with each other....it didn't have to be mentioned because we already knew that the feelings we had for each other were way beyond a typical "will you go out with me" thing. Even before we officially got married, we were living like a married couple and just to get the ceremony out of the way..we got married. You don't necessarily need to officially claim your relationship cuz you can already feel that no matter what, you guys are already on a higher level than many boyfriends n girlfriends because you didn't have to take the asking out step to get to the point where you are. Because I am basing your relationship on how it happened with me...I will say that you guys are meant for each other.
2007-01-19 02:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
alright so first off ur not a friend with benefits until u start doing sexual things while not officially together and second u should let him no flat out that u dont want to be the girl that is just there as a 'booty call' tell him u'll be his friend or more but not the fall back for when he needs u
2007-01-19 02:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by bigtt2116 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm the only thing you can do is ask him. Usually...at least in my experience a Bootycall or Friend with benefits usually knows whats going on. I mean if I have a friend with benefits or I am just a friend with benefits we usually discuss it ahead of time so that no one gets hurt. But maybe he really is busy and hanging out with you at night is the only time he gets.
2007-01-19 02:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe someone would ask this question. Do you really not know when you're being used for sex? That's dangerous. I hope that you're enjoying the sex, at least.
As I see by some of the replies to this question, some girls actually like that. I didn't know that. Now I'll be looking for a FWB because I certainly don't want the drama or a full blown "relationship".
2007-01-19 01:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, you don't want to get stuck in a rut with this guy. I know a guy at my work that does exactly what this guy sounds like he is doing. at one time, he was playing 4 girls at once! and he would be very sensitive and caring, but i don't think that he really cared for any of his girlfriends. now, i'm not saying that this guy is doing that, but i am just warning you; be careful. don't fall to far for this guy untill you know with certinty that you are his one and only. and if your not, don't worry, life still goes on. There are plenty more guys out there for you.
2007-01-19 02:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by drogo_brandebuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should talk to him about how your feeling. If you have been friends for a year then he should be understanding about your feelings and not freak out about it. You never know, he might have feelings but he might just be to shy to come out and say anything. If he is making the effort in hanging out with you more and calling you more he might think there is something there but just might be waiting for you to make the next move. It might turn into something amazing! Good luck
2007-01-19 02:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by April 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are have friends with benfits it's like you exploit each other and you do not mind....at all
For instance there could be two friend sof the opposite sex who are banging each other and yet they do not have any strings attatched. You only call him up when you it is necessary.
There is no talk of love or commitments.You are freinds wh support each other and that is it
2007-01-19 02:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a great friendship, but he is reaping some great benefits. I would just ask him to go to the movies and dinner and see how he reacts. You should get your answer.
2007-01-19 02:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by t_soulmate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋