3 days ago I was really upset that I didn't tell me friend what was going on with me...
he got really upset of the situation and now decided he'll only talk to me....saying just ''hi''...how are u....and some short stuffs!
today I talked to him and told him to understand my situation and he freak'n wont undersatnd..he kept on saying
what ever makes you feel happy!
why do GUYS find it so hard to UNDERSTAND US?
2007-01-19 01:52:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys do not understand because girls turn every event in their lives into MAJOR soap operas. Guys cannot stand soap operas. Girls are indirect and guys want direct answers. If you are feeling a certain way, TELL HIM!!! Try to speak his language. Do not hold out and say nothing is wrong when something DEFINITELY is. He probably does not want to speak to you because you shut him out and now you want him to come back. Guys call this mind games, and we leave girls in the dust when these things happen. I hope this helps...and I do not mean to be nasty. I am just stating the truth.
2007-01-19 02:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are hard to understand. We have a lot more complex emotions, feelings, thoughts, and suggestions than that of a man. That is why there are best selling books on the differences between man and woman. If you really stop and think for a moment and look at the big picture, you will see exactly what I am talking about. It maybe something that you start to see as you get a little older, but it's there if you stop and look around you! Don't ever wait for men to figure us out, because it won't ever happen. Just tell them point blank what the problem is and what you want from it.
2007-01-19 10:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this is my take on it. Most guys don't really evaluate feelings like women do. I'm not saying that women are bad or that they are wrong, men just don't evaluate there feelings enough. Women user there heart and there brain to deal with a situation, and men just use there head, they don't evaluate how they feel or search there feelings to relate to a situation. I think he understands the situation, but he can't grasp the feelings behind the situation, and most men, this is confusing. I wouldn't be mad at him, I think it's nice that makes the effort, and that you are willing to come to him, but understand that in the end it's just nice to have someone there for you. Even though he can't relate fully, he still makes an effort, and that important. Hope this helps. Thanks
2007-01-19 10:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do women always think that guys can read minds?
Considering you wouldn't tell him what was going on, how is he suppose to understand? Men aren't mind readers and we usually don't read between the lines and assume because we always end up assuming incorrectly. If you want your guy friend to understand, then communicate with him.
He is probably giving you an attitude because you snuffed his friendship and support when you wouldn't talk to him. So now he doesn't care because he probably feels that you don't value his friendship.
Next time, just avoid the drama and either don't go to him for support or actually tell him what's going on if you do.
2007-01-19 10:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Cause you're so confusing. YOur profile is a great example.
About me: ~Im very down to earth....cool calm smoothe feminin~...
so dont mess with me..OR else I'll make your life as living HELL!!
What kind of consistency is that????
PS. "and I come to this Y/A to waste my time while Im at work..lol". If you get paid and take home the paycheck you should show some loyalty to your employer and concentrate on WORK.
2007-01-19 10:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Easy, because girls wanted the guys to understand the girls not by their words but just by odd and unexplainable behaviour.
We man are straight up people, we spoke our mind when we wanted somethin' and we expect the girls spoke their mind if they wanted somethin'.
That way, a guy will understand what the girls wants.
2007-01-19 10:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by Opas 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
seriously???
women tend to make things alot more complicated than they are. also women tend to dwell on stuff for far too long, guys just want to get the sh*t off their chests and move on.... so when you girls feel the need to vent for hours on end, we get a little tired of it.
2007-01-19 10:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's very easy for some guys to put all women in the same classification but it's not really fair to do that. perhaps some guys have only experienced immature indecisive girls and so they think they all are like that. perhaps the guys themselves are immature and indecisive. you have to put these things in a subjective perspective to truly understand what's going on in people's heads.
2007-01-19 10:01:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh they understand okay. They are just afraid of the feminine mystique.
2007-01-19 10:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, cose most of girls don't stick on one logic, or at least they don't show it using it as an excuse for the protection of their virtue.
2007-01-19 10:03:10 · answer #10 · answered by Leon the african 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋