My bf and I just broke up and we dated for about a year. The other day one our mutual friends said that my ex was already dating another girl...but we just broke up less then a week ago. Is that normal? I can't even begin to think about dating again, not for awhile at least but the fact that he is dating already hurts my ego. So do you think that means my ex never even cared or that he just needed a rebound? Or are men and woman just completely different when it comes to this?
2007-01-19 01:49:11 · 16 answers · asked by kj 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The possibilities here are endless. There could be so many reasons why he did what he did...but does it matter now?
I am sure it hurts your ego. Do what's best for you. Guys sometimes can't hack being alone. So they go out and find the rebound chick...she's a band-aid.
That should tell you something about his character though; allbeit in retrospect. Take the time to take care of you. However long that takes. Do not let anyone push you in to anything.
Good Luck!
2007-01-19 01:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think, think, think. Please think about YOU! Why your relationship did not work, what may have gone wrong and how you can be happy ~ create happiness on your own.You are #1. Yes, men and women are very different when it comes to this. I'm very sorry that you are hurting, but not that your relationship ended. If someone you spent like, a year of your life in a "relationship"( dating) with is dating already then I'm sad to say, it was not strong. You never mentioned how old you were, Or your perception of the strength of your relationship. Obviously, you are hurt, because you loved him, so can -you- imagine beguinning another relationship with all your feelings ? Take care,
2007-01-19 02:02:15 · answer #2 · answered by takethepain2579 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT a person is to wait after a BREAKUP. Most dont as far as I can tell. PERSONALLY I would say 2 years in order to be SURE that their isnt a rebound EFFECT. However everyone is different. So all I can suggest is WAIT till you think you are ready for another RELATION.
2016-05-24 06:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could mean a lot of different things. he could have been wanting out for a while, or broke it off to be w/ the other girl, he could be doing it to spite you, he could be putting on a false front, ect....you need to do what best for you. It is healthy to have time to grieve over a broking relationship, that's not saying that you shouldn't go out but don't jump in to a new one. A lot of people jump from one to the next and don't understand why they can't make a lasting relationship. Take the time you need and you will be better off in the long run.
2007-01-19 02:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each person are different in deal with a break up. some just more some hang out to hope they might get back together, Other thing they need a cooling off period, after going through a break up with someone.
I don't think that he didn't care , i think he is dealing with it the best way he knows how to, And that moving on with his life,
I know this might hurt in what I am saying, Because I have been there myself,
I remember when my Boy friend moved on just only week after breaking up. I thought the same thing, But you know we all don't have to agree in how we deal with our pain or break up, We just do the best thing we know how. and that is moved on , and say it was good while it lasted, I hope this find you peace. there is someone out there for all of us, Maybe it better that you broke up now, and not years later.
2007-01-19 02:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My ex broke up with me after 12 years a couple of weeks later he moved on with his ex. She moved in within a few weeks of the breakup. So i think men
move on very quickly. They dont seem to feel the same way we do. I think its rebound stuff. Most guys dont like to be alone.I do think men are different about this.Me I am still alone.Givevyourself time to get over him. You will know when its time to move on.Keep busy with friend and join a gym. Hope I helped.
2007-01-19 01:59:25 · answer #6 · answered by canteloupesweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know, I do think that there are no rules about that, it all depends on the personality.
For instance your *** of a boyfriend, obviously had no trouble forgetting your one year lasting relationship and just moved on.
Whether it was a rebound or not, he is obviously not that stable of a person, and needs attention, and he seeks it in the first girl that lands in his lap.
You see, that boosts his ego, and makes him feel SO worthy.
Kind of pathetic if you ask me.
On the other hand you should stop analyzing him, and yourself as well, because that won't do any good.
Just move on, and forget the bastard, he did already.
lots of love
2007-01-19 01:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Capricious 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guys have a really crappy way of showing girls they care....this new girl could be just to make you feel jealous.....reguardless of the reason, my best friend is going thru the same thing rite now, her bf actually showed up into THEIR starbucks with another girl and his arm was around here....and when me and my friend walked in, she felt so heartbroken..but she played it right, said hi and next time around she walked in with MIKE, the new guy who she is about to date.......the truth is, the heart heals, some faster than others, but def. having another relationship will help the healing process.... just make sure ur not jumping around from bf to bf....
2007-01-19 01:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as soon as you feel like dating,,, i mean dating doesnt mean you have to be in an intimate serious relationship with someone,,, dating is enjoying the company and going out,,, you'll need that after a break up,,, you just dont have to put in mond, that you have to be involved with the person you're dating romantically, there's no pressure in going out, the more you'll enjoy eachother's company,, i do think that men and women are the same, they just deal with problems differently,,
2007-01-19 01:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by anna113 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's different for different folks and part of the time needed for recovery is based on the emotional health of the person. It takes as long as it takes. The more emotionally healthy and committed the person will the longer it will take. He probably wasn't all that committed or is covering up or denying his hurt. Wanting him to be hurting too seems to be part of the recovery process but, in truth, what he thinks and feels doesn't say ANYTHING about your value or worth as a person and lover.
2007-01-19 01:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋