im seeing a older guy im 19 hes 41, is something wrong with this is he using me does he mean everything he say? i care about him i've knowhn him for some years. he's been trying to talk to me but i never gave him the chance because of our age difference but now i have given him a chance. but my mother hates the ideal of me with him because of this me and her not even talking. The guy im seeing is my stepdads cousin so my step dad thinks its okay am i risking to much and just being young and foolish.
2007-01-19 01:36:17 · 13 answers · asked by hollaatyagirlt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im attracted to him as well dont get it worng hes not my sugar daddy
2007-01-19 01:49:25 · update #1
im four months older then his oldest daughter 3 years younger then his oldest kid for whoever that made that comment
2007-01-19 02:24:25 · update #2
I date younger women most of the time , so I certainly believe in it. Most women my age have become complacent with life, lost their vigor and vitality, and traded it for Bon-Bons and Oprah. I think that the maturity level of the two must be very similar. I'm 49 and dated 50 yr olds and 30 year olds. In many cases the 30 yr old was more mature that the 50 yr. old. Soooo you have to be the best judge. If you ever feel you're being used, move on. Wealth and comfort are not as important as self respect and self worth.
2007-01-19 01:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by tim s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an older guy, I'm all for it. I say you're both are lucky. As a 19 year old, you're considered an adult and the decision should be all your's. But if you feel that this is not right (not what other people tell you), then you have to do what is right for you. If the guy treats you well, what's wrong with that?
2007-01-19 09:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many people look at this issue as being taboo or socially unacceptable, so there against it right off the bat. You can't change there perception. Lots of older men will persue younger women for just sex, but a lot of older women do the exact same thing with youger men. As long your having fun and your ok with the age difference, then go for it and have fun.
2007-01-19 09:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are right together and you feel like it is a relationship you want to stay in then what does it matter to anyone else? You only get a few chances to meet people who make you truly happy so why sacrifice your happiness to make everyone else feel better. You are lucky to have found someone and if that someone is not everyone's ideal then bully for them.
2007-01-19 09:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a guy that old wanting to be with a 19 year old (or anyone young enough to be his daughter) kinda makes him a pervert.
2007-01-19 09:40:05 · answer #5 · answered by strawberrycrush 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 35 and I have been dating a man 23 years older than me for two years. I have never been happier. I love him and he loves me and to us that is all that matters.
2007-01-19 09:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by t_soulmate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, he'll be 50 years old when you're 28. You'll probably grow out of it before long. But for now, enjoy his company, but don't get serious (engaged, married, etc.).
2007-01-19 09:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This might be pushing it, but as long as you're of age, do what you think is right for yourself - that is, if you really know it's right within yourself. But do give this some careful consideration.
2007-01-19 09:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by Joseph C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's interested in ONE thing. It's not your bank account, personality, life's philosophy, what your dreams are, Or anything else he may be pretending to like about you. Have you guessed what it is?
2007-01-19 09:42:58 · answer #9 · answered by run7days 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when you are 41 you will look at it differently and see him and what he is doing with different eyes, and you will not be pleased
2007-01-19 09:45:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jillary von Hämsterviel™ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋