i have real issues with the fact that my gf has been with other people sexually before me. i know its messed up because that was her life before me and its not like i even knew her then, but its all i can think about sometimes. i just hate the fact that everything shes done with me, shes already done with someone else. it even gets to the point where i will be angry just thinking about it and actually be in a bad mood towards her. does anyone else have this problem? am i like crazy?
2007-01-19 01:32:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have the same problem with my boyfriend...dont worry you are not crazy...its just what happens when you really care for someone, you get jealous at times. Its just like you said...i hate that my boyfriend has done the same thing with other girls...i think its just part of being in a relationship with someone you really care for and want to be with, and only with. Just remember that she is with you now and no one else..that usually makes me feel better...
but just dont act out against her...its not her fault...she didnt know you and its just part of being grown up-people have relationships...its just part of life.
good luck!
2007-01-19 01:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by Kerry 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to think about how you really feel about her. What was your life like before you met her? What would it be like if you no longer had her? If you really love her, you will feel that your life is better since you met her and you won't want to lose her. If that's the case, you need to start trusting her and trusting yourself. If she hasn't given you any reason not to, then I think the issue is with you, and you just need to relax a little, enjoy her for who she is, and not worry about whoever else there may have been before you. Try to live in the present, not the past. Good luck!
2007-01-19 09:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man.... don't judge her, you have a past. And it's probably worse than her's. Look you can either harp on it and eventually she will get sick of your righteousness and leave you with what you had before....your hand! So......lighten up , enjoy her and her you.
For most guys who worry about our girls past, it's only because we worry we will lose by comparison.... instead( she is with you now) worry about pleasing her, loving her like no other has done before, instead of worrying about if you were the best......be the best.....and you can't be the best until you remember when you point the finger at someone there is always three fingers pointing back at you! Thee who is without sin let him cast the first pair of dirty drawer's!
2007-01-19 09:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I don't have these issues, I can understand your feelings. You need to get over it. I know "easier said then done" but seriously you need to get over it. You even mentioned that sometimes you get angry and act out against her, so these emotion issues with her past are going to hurt the future. Try something that you know she has never done. That can be something for only the 2 of you. If you can't seem to get over this, no matter hard you try, then you might need to move on.
Good Luck-
2007-01-19 09:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this is an issue that you need to get out of the way immediately..not only is it going to drive you crazy thinking of your girlfriend with other guys, but its so unfair to her...if you're disrespecting her over something that's in the past, before you two were even an item..thats messed up. She can't change the past and neither can you. Get over it..and treat her nicely.
2007-01-19 09:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by xoxo_sexy_biatch_xoxo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No your not crazy it's normal, but you might want to watch that temper. If it will help tell her how you feel and explain why it makes you upset, telling her won't change the past but it will clear the air. Remember if you don't tell her she won't know why you're upset! I know it's hard but if you love her you can get through this, hopefully she will understand.
2007-01-19 09:40:39 · answer #6 · answered by osellius 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no you r not crazy its just that you wanted to be her first and sometimes it doesnt happen that way maybe someone else was trying to be her first and whoever it was she felt like they should have been the one.
everybody(i think)feels that way sometimes but what can you do about it now,its done and gone.
2007-01-19 09:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by jay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's one reason why we shouldn't have sex before marriage. It causes jealousy issues. my husband and I both waited until our wedding night and we don't have that problem. But if you really love her, you will just have to get over it. What is more important. Her past, or her future with you?
2007-01-19 09:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just really insecure. Everyone has a past, including you. This is one surefire way to ruin your relationship. Relax. She's with you.
2007-01-19 09:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by roswell75 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I don't but I can see where you're coming from. If the relationship is going good the past doesn't mater.
2007-01-19 09:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋