I am in a relationship where I do not receive any attention or significant time from my man. He says that he is busy, and I do understand, but I am unhappy. I am just wondering what other men do to show that they care. Am I crazy for wanting attention? I may see him once a month, and when I do he is nice, but most of the time he is on his phone, or watching TV. We go out to the movies and dinner sometimes, but I can't remember the last time because it is so long ago, and it does'nt happen much. He lives about an hour from me, and when I ask him to come see me, he says he's tired or has work to do. Maybe I am doing something wrong. Perhaps one can give me advice on what I can do. He is a nice guy, he tells me he loves me, should that be enough? What should a man do to show that he loves a woman? Should he have to do anything?
2007-01-19 01:32:11 · 3 answers · asked by lollly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He should make time for you. He should treat you as precious treasures. He should see to it that you know he loves and cares for you in all that he does or says. He should compromise and sacrifice for you, even if that means no sleep from time to time and put you as priority. He should nurture you and tend to your needs as well as wants for your absolute pleasure. He should not allow you to feel neglected or restless or even lonely. You should not seek attention from anyone else but him. He should provide for you, not just financially, but, in every way within his power.( emotionally, spiritually, physically, affectionately) He should make you feel special and secure. You should feel safe while with him and happy with life.
These are just a few comments and examples of what I think a man should be to his woman. But, these are things that I posses and exercise, since we are different, the suggestions may vary. Put it this way, if you were my woman, this question would have been asked by someone else. Be blessed.
2007-01-19 01:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by Leo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is completely out of balance in what you need and what he needs. It is time to have a heart to heart discussion regarding where you each see this relationship going and make a plan. If he is not in the same place you are, and that sounds to be the case, it is time to move on. What are you expecting out of this relationship?? What does he see for your futures?? You aren't happy so I am guessing you feel you deserve more. I tend to agree with you. If he does not want more are you OK with this? If you aren't OK with that, what are you gonna do about it?
When my husband and I were dating, we lived 1 1/2 hours apart. He traveled during the week and I traveled on the weekends because I had kids at home. He would get out of work @ 8-9pm and make the drive to my house. We would sit up and talk or watch a movie and just be together or we would go straight to bed. It wasn't about sex, it was about making time for each other and what was important to US. My husband used to drive an hour to my work to have an hour lunch break with me. We were & are each others priority.
In my opinion the only thing you are doing wrong is waiting for more. He may not want to offer you that. If he only sees you once a month, you would think he would be crazy about the time he does get to spend with you. I mean 'turn off his phone nothing else matters' crazy.
How much can he truly love you if he never has time for you. You are making it easy for him to make you his convenience when you should be his PRIORITY. If he cannot put forth the effort now.... what do you think the future would hold?? You need to give him a reason to change. If you allow him to continue this way... he will, plain and simple. Have the heart to heart but be ready to face what he has to say. If you want attention and lovin' you may need to let him go so you can be free to find it. In the long run.... you will be happy you did. Never lower your expectations for someone else.
I wish you happiness always.
2007-01-19 02:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't love even as a guy who do in basic terms not confirmed any appreciate to a woman and in basic terms would not acted like one among them because it takes time to make certain the outcome that could want to got here about or no longer.perchance that is going to or therefour some how that isn't any longer gonna be large at in touch in womens to have this feelins for adult men who love and manage them with appreciate and to being style.
2016-10-15 10:56:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋