we've lived together 5 mnths. ,but he says love you so often it just sounds fake.... not i love you , just love you , what do you think ? i'm trying really hard but have trust issues,i think he tells me certain things about his day to try and make me jealous too.
2007-01-19 01:31:08 · 14 answers · asked by transplanted 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really feel that you have a "gut feeling" about this kind of thing. Go with your head, and not your heart on this. Sometimes sparing your heart from breaking is the best.
2007-01-19 01:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by K.W. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust issues? meaning, he has done something in the past that stained your trust? You have to trust him especially now that you already live together. Open all lines of communication and make sure that you understand each other. He should know how you feel about him saying "love you" instead of "i love you"..... or about how his day was! for all you know...it's not really his intention to make you jealous or to make you feel insecure. Leave no room for doubts, distrust and anything that could kill the relationship! Now that you are in one house...focus more on the positive things and how you both can make the relationship work. You have to move on and leave the past behind! if you need him to do something to completely bring back ur trust, tell him that....don't be unfair to him by pretending you forgive him an d yet you doubt every little thing he does like forgetting I, in "i love you"
2007-01-19 09:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by marguerite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Five months is short, but some people do fall in love that fast. If he is trying to make you jealous, that is not love. Love is a lot of things and those things are good. When someone tries to play with your emotions that is not love. I hope you are not footing most of the bills with this guy.
2007-01-19 09:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by Suu S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His actions (more so than his words) tell you how he feels about you. As far as the jealousy thing...you have two choices. See what happens if you DONT react at all to what he tells you (it may stop), or tell him directly that when he tells you certain things it makes you insecure. Allow him (if he loves you) to reassure you and chase away your insecurities. Might wanna tell him his nonchalant way of saying 'love you' is understood differently by you. Tell him you dont want it said as a greeting, farewell, courtesy, or a mere formality. He shouldnt say it cuz he feels he should...he should say it cuz he feels it!
2007-01-19 09:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by Soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words and that's how you tell. If he acts as though he loves you, he probably does. How is that? He respects you, he doesn't do hurtful things to you, he tends to your needs and wants and doesn't manipulate you. BTW, trying to make you jealous is manipulation and it's a very bad sign for a relationship.
2007-01-19 09:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes trying to get to know you better and see if this is a true relationship or just a phase. If he tries to make you jealous then hes saying well if she isnt jealous she doesnt want a real relationship. Your supposed to fight for your man just as we guys do for our women.
2007-01-19 09:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just dont understand what "I love you" means? I mean saying it daily or so... is it a reminder? If you could "feel" the way he says is genuine... he is genuine but as you have asked this question, he might not be. Try to remember the first time he said "I love you"... was it "I love you" or "love you"...
2007-01-19 09:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by hmmm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the word Love doesent mean anything these days but you can tell by their actions only
2007-01-19 09:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Realdeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one can know if someone really loves you by his actions towards to you .his sincerity will be revealed with time.what he says might not matter ,but his behaviours and attitude towards you and others around you.
2007-01-19 09:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by angelzmilia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't believe guys when they say love you you havde to say I and you love somebody by showing them not telling them remember that
2007-01-19 09:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by brown eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋