I think that my girlfriend for 4 years, is going to leave me. we have been having some trouble, she doesn't whant to get intimate, and when I ask her, she tells me that she is not sure of her feelings for me. But she doesn't ask me for time or anything. As soon as I stop trying to get intimate we are back to normal, I tell her i love her an she tells me she loves me to. It only seems that she doesn't want to get intimate, but it is driving me crazy!!! I really love her!!! She is everything to me!!Is she trying to leave me or what? And if she is What can I do?
2007-01-19 01:11:45 · 4 answers · asked by pas 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take it like a man. You can't make anyone love you.
2007-01-19 01:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by jiggery_pokery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to sit down and talk about this, ask her right out if she`s tired of this relationship, does she want some time on her own, If she says yes then be prepared for the worse.
There is nothing that you can do if a person wants to leave,they will leave, It will hurt like mad.
Lots of people have been through this and survived, I have so can you.
Just talk to her, find out where you stand so that you can both get on with your lives.
2007-01-19 09:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being intimate doesn't mean that she doesn't love you anymore. I too get cold towards sex. Or propably she is afraid that you will get too much (sex) out of her before marriage. You mentioned you guys are together for 4 yrs. It's was my concern too when i was with my husband before marriage. I was worried that having sex before marriage or too much sex before marriage will let him get tired of me fast. This might be her concern or she is afraid or getting pregnant. What you can do is to assure and reassure her. Woman needs security. Don't worry too much, unless you guys have some hidden problems that you did not post. Relationship tend to get a bit tasteless after several years. Try to spice it up by giving her surprises, seduce her by dropping her dirty notes or whispering in her ears, buy her sexy lingerie. Sometimes, we women need a little motivation and spices too. Good luck!
2007-01-19 09:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's confused. Just try and go on. if she leaves, she leaves and trying to hang on will just make it worse. Hope everything works out.
2007-01-19 09:19:11 · answer #4 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋