An then you talk to them. How do you do it? Wouldn't it be akward. Thanks.
2007-01-19 01:11:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It just feels akward. I haven't talked to him for two years. I just decided. I'm 18. Now I don't have to see him, or tlk to him anymore. An just let me decide about him. An now I want to work back a relationship. Because he is your father. An it is good to have a realtionship. But it just feels so weird. You just call him up, and say. So we haven't talked awhile because I ddin't want to talk to you. So what's up? Thanks though for the adivce.
2007-01-19 01:22:22 · update #1
Just pick it up where you left off. Or try to, anyway.
2007-01-19 01:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost a son 2 days after birth. When I called my mom to tell her that he had passed, she didn't say sorry she said, "What time did he pass?". I said I don't know. She said, well how long ago has it been, I told her I don't know. Then she said, well you know I told you he might not make it (he was pre-mature year 1988). I said (in a very low voice because I was ill) mom what do you want me to do, say hi mom my baby just died? She said, well (no lie) you just call me when you're feeling better", and hung up the phone. Several times my boyfriend kept me from calling to go off on her. Because of my faith, I knew I had to forgive but, I also knew that my mom would NEVER apologize. So (I was wrong) about 6/7 mos later I called her, she tried to be cold and lied about what happened but, I needed some money and got the check that I wanted. That's how she apologizes. Oh I was wrong but it took a while for me to warm up to her again. My point is that in that situation, I was being so manipulative and running the conversation that I did not feel uncomfortable because I anticipated everything. Don't worry, I love my mom and I don't work her over for her money...I was just hurt then and had to get back at her. I'm glad I didn't do anything worse.
2007-01-19 09:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by Emerald Jones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother had always been my best friend, Until my grandma died in 2000, Then she withdrew, doesn't get dressed, leave the house. All she does is sleep & watch TV. she dont even bathe or clean her house. I tried talking to her about it on many different levels such as kindly, worriedly and angrily. Telling her she needs to move forward & start living again etc.... She got angry & disowned me and won't take my calls. I found out by someone last night that she had a stroke last Saturday & didn't have anyone notify me. If you have the chance to rebuild your relationship with your dad then DO IT. You never know when it will be too late. Time is precious put pride aside and make the call. I miss my mom so much and she lives 30 minutes away but dont want to see me. CALL HIM!
2007-01-19 09:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend sending a letter or a card first with an invite to breakfast. Just tell him you've been thinking of him and that you'd like to see him ask him to call you at the end of your card or letter to set up breakfast/lunch..if he calls you then your fine meet him and talk it out. if he doesn't call you then he's lost a good son and I am sorry for you. Good luck.
2007-01-19 09:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't talk to my dad for nearly 14 years but then I grew up and decided that life was too short and now we are on speaking terms
2007-01-19 09:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had done that with my dad where I didn't speak to him for a year and a half but a tragic thing led us back to speaking and our relationship is a lot better and stronger now.
2007-01-19 09:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by andyramvzb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid your past, turn back fro where you were left, i'm sure you'll understand how you miss lots of things in life. My dear go back to your dad. Many times our parents can be wrong and you just have to forget it, so sweetheart go ahead to yesterday. You get it!
2007-01-19 13:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by MG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it it'll be akward for about 30 seconds and i am sure your dad thinks of you every day so break the ice and do it my boyfriend hadn't talked to his kids in 6 years (they are both in their 20's) and i convinced him to do it and they are still reunited today so go for it honey...just pick up the phone and do it..
2007-01-19 09:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by auntie s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my family treat's me badly my pain is their pleasure and there is nothing i can do i,ve tried, but i am a good parent i try to learn from mistakes and thing's that i don't like i try not to pass them down to my children
2007-01-19 09:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by Tina Tegarden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋