My Family is very large and very close so my side of the wedding is going to be very large. However my soon to be husband doesn't really enjoy his familys company and Has only chosen to invite 3 people from his family and only a couple of friends. So I feel bad. Can I just have everyone sit together instead of on seperate sides?
2007-01-19 01:06:28 · 25 answers · asked by happygirl061285 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes , that is what you should do , since there is such a difference in family sizes to attend, have everyone sit together
2007-01-19 01:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mary Mary Jane 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well for my wedding my husband was the one with all the family and i only has my immediate family and a couple of friends and what i did was sit everyone together and at the end i would see them having a conversation. It is not really a bad idea trust me I had nightmares about my sitting chart but it really worked outgreat at the end.. good luck and congrats
2007-01-19 10:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by yomyr2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a small wedding with just family, we had 54 people, 6 of them were my family, the rest was his. We had the groomsmen usher people to either side. The only people that should sit on the correct sides are the parents.
2007-01-19 10:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is tradition, but it's one I'm planning on breaking at my wedding. My fiance and I are in a very similar situation. I am reserving the front row on each side for our close friends/family, but after that it's just going to be in order of who comes in first.
2007-01-19 10:08:11 · answer #4 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tradition dictates the split family thing. It's your wedding - do what you feel is right. I know I've been to a bunch of weddings lately where they don't even ask anymore which side...you're just seated or seat yourself wherever.
And congrats on the upcoming wedding!
2007-01-19 09:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by Enchanted 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to have separate sides! I never really understood that theory myself. I mean think about it, your families will be tied together. What better time to have everyone mix and mingle and get to know each other? Seat people together with who you think have same things in common, or someone really shy with someone friendly and outgoing...do what makes you happy and what feels comfortable. Being respectful by everyone is number one rule, the second, make your plans for what suits you guys the best. Congratulations!
2007-01-19 09:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by ♀♥☼ alycat☼♥♀ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have to - but it is common practice. I would advise you to put your family on one side, your friends on the other, and his 3+f can join the smaller of the two.
You may opt for what I did instead which is to have one wedding near your family and another near your partner's.
2007-01-19 09:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by profound insight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm doing a seating set up just to avoid this. My family is small, his is huge. I have like 15, he has like 40. So yeah, huge. I'm having people sit at tables (reception is going to be in the same room) & not having the tables set up on "sides."
2007-01-19 22:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its traditional to do it the first way you mentioned, but in cases like this, Ive seen it to where several brides just sat people and didn't even have ushers ask brides side or grooms side, of course they should accomidate people who specifically ask for brides side, some people will be picky, but lots of people wont care, and so they can fill in the grooms blanks! Just make sure that CLOSE family members of yours like immediate aunts, uncles, cousins, etc are on your side and you should be fine!
2007-01-19 10:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if you're getting married in a religious venue. If so, this is a question for your officiant.
If not, don't worry about it. Mix the families together, and if anyone asks about it, say it's so everyone has a good seat.
2007-01-19 12:04:34 · answer #10 · answered by Alicia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding. It's your wedding so do what you and your fiancee want. If you have Ushers then let them know how you want them to direct the guests to be seated. Hope you have a wonderful day and best wishes for your future happiness.
2007-01-19 09:10:59 · answer #11 · answered by Alex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋