Men rubbish at reading women?

Question

Why is that when i am just being plain friendly it gets received wrong and as full blown flirting.

Grr some men are soooo rubbish at reading women, its really getting on my nerves!

what can i do to make it clear that i'm just being friendly, nothing more nothing less, should i confront the person, its just getting out of hand or just go around wearing a frown all the time and not catch anyones eye?

yeah it is one mate in particler, hes like in a relationship, but he seems to think i'm coming on to him, i mean in the past we've kissed a few times like.
But now he seems to think i'm either flirting with him, or flirting with someone else, yes hes actually said to his/my mates that i was all over some other guys a few weeks ago.

This has got to stop, hes really getting on my nerves

Answer 1

first of all you must be attractive for guys to flirt with you when you are just being good natured. take that as a compliment. most guys if they're like me don't really care if you're flirting or not. they're just trying to see if you might be worth the chase, because after all, as childish as it is, it is pretty much a game. i know it does sound ludicrous, shallow, and stupid, but im only telling you because this stems from our own inabilities to function on a multidimensional level - we really do have a one track mind. im going to apologize in advance for guys who will keep trying this, and guys in the past that have done this to you. don't feel so bad, flirting is a compliment to the recipient, try to take it in stride, and try not to hurt the poor guys feelings too bad when you shut him down.

Answer 2

You need more details...... Where are you when this is happening? Is it happening to people you already know, or strangers?

If it is coming from strangers at a bar, then take it as a compliment. If you are good looking, most red blooded males with any self confidence will take a run at you.

If you are talking about people you already know, they have probably harbored a secret infatuation with you for a while and took the chance as soon as anything close to a sign came up. Doesn't mean you still can't be friends. I still have many friends who were originally interested in me for more. Its just how you react that matters.

bye the way, I kinda got the impression from your question that you really dig me? right?

Answer 3

We're not thinking about what you're doing or what we're doing. We're simply reacting to your image. If you're hot and dressing sexually suggestive (and lots of women are and don't realize it) guys think you're interested in the "pursuit". You have to realize that there are so many girls asking "Why doesn't he notice me?" and "what can I do to get this guy's attention?" Guys are thinking that here's a woman that I do notice. Unfortunately, you're not interested. If you don't want guys attention do things that won't call that kind of attention to yourself...like less make up, less revealing clothing. You may say that you have the right to do these things without them coming on to you. but You asked and that's reality. Either take the advice or continue to put up with guys reading you the wrong way.

Answer 4

Tricky...I'd say be careful about body language (which might actually be contradicting what you are saying!) and distance...the moment you kind of reduce the personal space, and even start to touch, it can be interpreted as flirting. All very general, but that's my opinion.
But don't stop smiling!
M

Answer 5

I am not accustomed to flirting, nor being flirted by anybody.

Answer 6

Just tell him, "Don't get excited, I'm just kidding you"..see what the doofus says.

Answer 7

well all men are not the same so i dont have this answer