3 weeks to my wedding and im bricking it?

Question

ive been with my man 10 years and we get really silly together i feel i can say or do anything in front of him but im scared stiff of standing up and taking my vows in front of his and my family shud i have a nip of whisky so i dont care or what

what did you guys do on you wedding day to settle your nerves

Answer 1

Don't have a drink - you won't need it.

My wife was actually more emotional during the rehersal for the vows - on the day she was fine.

There's nothing to worry about - everyone will be behind you so you won't even know they are there.

Good luck.

Answer 2

hmmm..Perhaps your are feeling a tad overwhelmed at the 'stiffness' of it? You said you and he are pretty silly togther and have fun? Has any of the relationship candor been integrated in the wedding? If not, it's POSSIBLE you are feeling a little wierd and 'unnatural' about it? Why not plan something sweet and silly, something that says it all about your relationship and your love for each other. Perhaps that will loosen things up for you quite a bit? Also, be sure to talk to your intended about what your feeling now. Perhaps come up with a way that the whole process (and the families being there) won't seem so LOOMING before you.
Good Luck, and remember, weddings are supposed to be fun to plan, have a good time, be a reflection on the bridal couple, and always respectful.

Answer 3

Im getting married in 09 and i feel physically sick just thinking about walking down the aisle never mind saying our vows. I wouldn't have a drink before hand cause that may make you worse. Im a very nervous person and i have always been like that since i was young. When i was expecting my son i was worried sick all the way through so my midwife recommended Rescue Remedy. Its herbal and i works a treat, i carry it every where i go now. All you do is either add a few drops to water or a few drops on your tongue. I do tend to use a lot of it when i am using it so if your going to get it get it now and have it everyday and have a good few drops about 15min before you walk up the aisle. If your in the uk most supermarkets now sell it for about 5.00 pound or you can get it at Health stores. Also calms is good to in the tablet form. Good luck and all the best for the future.

Answer 4

Dont have a drink! a friend had a drink before walking down the aisle, and when asked by the priest if she took this man to be her lawfully wedded husband, she said 'NO' for the giggle! The vicar refused to marry them as they were not taking their vows seriously enough, even when she begged she was only kidding. He agreed to marry them 3 months later!
You will have a wonderful time, of course you will be nervous, it is a very important commitment you are making.
Good luck for the future!

Answer 5

I should have had a shot of something before my wedding. In the middle of the ceremony, around the time we were supposed to say our vows, I lost it. I started cracking up and couldn't stop. The ceremony should have been about 10-15 min, but with my inability to stop laughing, it took almost 30min. Did make for a very interesting wedding video & pictures.

Answer 6

A wee dram wouldnt hurt but I wouldnt want to get married pist !?! or with a hangover. I was very nervous, awake from dark o'clock (when I eventually got to sleep), started my period the morning of my wedding etc BUT when I got to my wedding my nerves suddenly disappeared. I knew I loved him (&he loved me) and for some reason that just made everything right.

Nerves are part of the big day, part of the whole experience I think. Although we get nervous I think it would be worse if we didnt, that might mean we didnt care enough to bother.

(Sadly the marriage didnt work out but I dont regret it, we married for the right reasons & I hope he is happy now whatever he is doing)

Answer 7

Good luck for your wedding, know youre nervous but sounds like youre v happy with this guy so it will all be great. Have ONE OR TWO drinks before if you really need to, but dont get trollied (you dont want to look mashed in the photos lol). Once your standing next to him, all that nervousness will be replaced by feeling so happy. I didnt get married until the afternoon, so I was bouncing off the walls with excitement, and butterflies all day, but if you truly love your fiance nothing else matters.

Answer 8

Well i just got married in October and i was extremly nervous but i didnt drink i dont think you wanna do anything to ruin the day drinking may make you slur your words or feel sick for the rest of the evening you will do enough of that at the reception just breathe and you will be fine when you look in his eyes and no one elses you will be able to share with him all your feelings i had tears in my eyes the whole time and kinda lost the sense that anybody else was there it felt like it was just him and i and i think you will be just fine everyone gets the jitters but once the words are being said to you you feel like your on top of the world and when its all over your like thats it i wish it would have lasted longer anyways congrats and good luck

Answer 9

I had the same thing before the wedding. We decided to make our own vows and not do the regular ones.
I did write everything down and asked my maid of honor ( sister) to watch my purse and bring it so I could scoop over it before the service. Well, she forgot and I made up of what I remembered and everyone told me they liked it, so did my husband.
Don't worry, because on the day itself you'll be full of excitement. I did go to the hair salon in the morning to get my hair and make up done, and I felt so relaxed. Don't do the alcohol, because you don't want it to do to you, what you don't want. Just be yourself and enjoy your beautiful, special day. If you're doing it right, it should a once in a lifetime thing.

Answer 10

Wedding? there's nothing to it. So long as this is what you both want, either of your family shouldn't matter. After all its only a ceremony. You're basically married having been together 10 yrs.
Just put on a smile, no need to drink, save that after.

Good Luck.