mycousin recently asked me to be her chief bridesmaid and now i look at the invitations it is stated that someone else is the matron of honour, which i thought was the chief bridesmaid, when i asked her she said that i am the chief bridesmaid but because this other lady is married and i am not she has to be called matron of honour not bridesmaid? is she just filling me with a non truth and really this other lady is chief?
2007-01-19 00:10:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A matron of honor is a maid of honor that's married. See a maid isn't a married woman. A matron is. The 'of honor' part says she's the most important one, has the most responsibility and all. I think she's trying to include everyone and make everyone feel important. Or maybe she just doesn't know that's how it is. I'd mention it to her. Tell her you read it somewhere online or something and you're confused. The maid of honor or matron of honor is the chief bridesmaid, it's all the same person, or should be unless she chose to split the responsibility. If that's the case, then she should be honest upfront about it.
2007-01-19 09:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by benjis.girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Matron of Honour is a married Maid of Honour. The Maid or Matron of Honour is the one who signs the wedding license and is the last person down the aisle before the bride and her father. She is also the one who stands next to the bride at the front of the church (or wherever the ceremony is taking place) and the one who holds the bride's bouquet during the ceremony. Since she is calling you a Chief Bridesmaid I am assuming there is more than one bridesmaid and that you are the most senior (possibly the oldest) of the bridesmaids. You will stand two positions away from the bride during the ceremony. She isn't trying to pull your leg or anything but the Matron of Honour is the one who would be signing the marriage license.
2007-01-20 20:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Maid or Matron of honor is a bride's closest buddy (sister, best friend, etc.), the woman is called a matron if she's married. Honestly Chief Bridesmaid is something made up. A Maid/Matron of Honor is the one that is essentially running things, is the main go-to gal for the bride, someone the bride knows will really be there for her to help plan and make her wedding day perfect. So unfornuately yes...other woman is in charge if she's been asked to be Matron of Honor.
2007-01-20 00:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by boston77gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of a chief bridesmaid. A matron of honor is the same thing an a maid of honor. The title is different because the matron of honor is married.
I think that maybe your cousin was trying to make you feel special when she said that you where the chief bridesmaid, but the maid or matron of honor is really the chief bridesmaid. A title should not really matter to you. It is a honor that she asked you to be in her wedding party.
2007-01-19 08:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your cousin was having a tough time choosing between the two of you for the Maid of Honor position. A Matron of Honor is really just a Maid of Honor who is already married. She can't fight for the bouquet. I've never heard of a chief bridesmaid.
2007-01-19 10:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by orangeflameninja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term "chief bridesmaid" is one that I have never heard of. The term "Matron of Honor" is the term for a married woman in the bridal party. This doesn't necessarily mean that she is the main go-to-gal or anything. A "Bridesmaid" is single girl in the bridal party. I'm getting married next month. I have a "Maid of Honor" who is my bestfriend that's in charge (she's single), but then I also have my sister who I wanted to be a part of my bridal party - but she is married - so she is my "Matron of Honor".
2007-01-19 08:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by MissNowMrs. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard the term "chief bridesmaid" so I don't know what that's all about. But Matron of Honor is the same as Maid of Honor except that the woman is married. So in that way, she is telling you the truth.
2007-01-19 08:14:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A Matron of Honor is a women in the wedding that is married. She is not call a brridesmaid. Briedsmaid are ladies who are not married. and the chief bridesmaid or the Maid of Honor is a lady that is not married. The duties of both are to assist with addressing wedding invitations, assisting the bride on her wedding date. Co-hosting the Bridal Shower. One of you will sign the Marriage Certficate, One of you will hold the ring and hold her bouqet and assist with any errands or activities the bride ask of you.
2007-01-19 09:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah Yeah no I have never heard of a chief lady or anything with chief in it. Matron of honor is for a girl that is married but there should only be one of those. its like the maid of honor. it goes in order matron of honor, maid of honor then the brides maides.
2007-01-19 11:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally bridesmaids are single.
A good way to approach it would be to ask your bride, what are your duties for the day ? Chief bridesmaid usually helps with the Bride's veil/train carries a little bag with bride's essentials ( hanky/lipstick/comb) and attends to bride's every need . If there are v.young bridesmaids/pageboys they may need looking after too. All this may be too much for 1 person.
Also duties before the day can include: organizing the hen night, helping with other errands.
Wait until you are calm and happy to ask how you can help( volunteering these things if you would like to do them) and don't get competitive about it, it's so lovely to be asked, don't you think???
M : )
2007-01-19 08:22:48 · answer #10 · answered by mesmerized 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋