i've been seeing this guy for about 2 months, however have only met him twice as we live 150 miles apart and both work, we speak every day and when we have met we get on really well but the last week he's been really distant, not calling/answering his phone, being quiet, which he isn't. Im a pessimist when it comes to men and immediate thoughts are he has a girlfriend/ex?? as we always meet half way so never been where he lives. anyone any other ideas??? i've asked him and he says nothing.
2007-01-18 23:56:08 · 22 answers · asked by simply_cjay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
might be that or it could be he likes u and wants to see how much u like him...maybe he just wants u to show that u really want to talk to him.
2007-01-18 23:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by mr_fury666 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months is not a long time and not having actually spent that time with this man makes it even less. Have both of you agreed that this is a relationship? Otherwise, I'd lay off for a while and see what happens. If he doesn't call you back, you've got the answer. You're not married to him, and being single is the time to find the person right for you. I used to be a pessimist myself and read into every situation my own neg. thoughts. That's not good. Read 10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives by Laura Schlesinger. You are worth more than not being answered to and left wondering about the relationship.
2007-01-19 08:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be just very busy. Then, again, he may have developed another relationship. He may just be figuring out whether or not he wants to make the BIG C, committment. You have nothing to lose by asking and apparently haven't gained anything that way either. If you are bothered or unhappy by the relationship, it is not giving you what you want and you may want to look on. There are way too many fish in the sea to bother with a really long play.
2007-01-19 08:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that hes met someone else or possibly hes having a crap week at work or some personal problems?
my advice is to just bit e the bullet and ring him - if he doesnt answer leave a voicemail saying you're concerned about his behaviour and you'd like to know whats going on - if hes having personal problems you'd like him to consider letting you try and help - if its a case of him having gone off you - then you'd appreciate him being man enough to tell you so you can stop playing games. If he says nothing again tell him its perfectly clear that something is the matter and you'd prefer him not to fob you off.
Best of luck
xx
2007-01-19 08:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you've noticed. Tell him what popped into your head and why, and ask him directly to confirm or deny it. Explain to him if he wants any type of future with you, he's got to be honest and open. Not good to start out with deception or 'leading on'.....tell him it may be silly, but you'd really like to see where he lives. Explain to him that you are establishing trust in him right now, so it's important. Maybe share with him that guys in the past have not been what they pretended to be, and you just would like the peace of mind knowing he is what he says he is. If you explain this, he should think your insecurities and doubts are reasonable.
Good luck!
2007-01-19 08:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl! i really don't believe in distant relationship so take a real look at that. next, if you are to be really into it, then you need to take a lot of steps. you should get him to answer the question and real quick. you don't want west a minute on the wrong one. if you are having this questions in your mind, then youshould definitly get answers for them or go some where you will not be questioning.
2007-01-19 08:03:53 · answer #6 · answered by milona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somtimes it is good to just sit back and let him figure it out. If he is being disdant let him deal with whatever is going on and then decide to call you. I wouldnt even let him know that you are worried about it by calling him. If he is interested he will call. Trust me. If he is being a wuss and trying to become disdant on purpose than just let him - there is more (and better) where he came from! haha :)
2007-01-19 11:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by rachie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too secretive and it appears as though you have picked up on all the signals clearly. You shouldn't have to go through that much drama and stress to talk to someone if they want to be with you. Nip it in the bud!
2007-01-19 08:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him saying nothing sez alot. He doesn't want a relationship with you, it may not be you per-say, but the Geography, men don't like to be put out too much, they want it ALL there way. so forget him. Fear not there is plenty of nice guys out there that will appreciate you....
2007-01-19 08:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not your bad experience with guys that made you think he probably has a girlfriend or is married, it was your intuition. trust your "gut-feeling" and move on. you will miss the attention, and the calls, every break-up is bad, but you'll give yourself the chance to find someone who really loves you and won't cheat on you. if you stay with him, you'll be the one cheating on yourself.
2007-01-19 08:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by S T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about starting by telling him how you feel about his recent behaviour? but don't focus on yourself too much, the key is to get him to understand that you're concerned for him. be open to his answers, even if they may hurt you in the end. keep cool!
2007-01-19 08:04:37 · answer #11 · answered by Jade Ice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋