Ask my first crush out on a date after 7 years - Good/Bad idea?

Question

Ok let me start from the top. Between the times I was 13-15 ('98-'00), I met my first crush, she made an impact on me that lasted for months. It never really went anywhere due to the severity of my shyness at the time, just flirting back and forth, never went out on a date or anything, we gave each other presents for Christmas though. She never revealed to me or anyone else that she officially liked me more than a friend.

Then, in 2005, I was 20 and she was 18, I had her # from this list they gave out back in school. I was married, but I decided to call some old friends from back then, so I called her to say hi and how you were doing. She was very, very excited to hear from me and she actually confessed how much she liked me more than a friend back in the day. I told her about my marriage and she started joking around like "Nnnoooooo, you were supposed to get married to me!" But, I thought I'd do her a favor and ask if she'd be interested in a business opportunity that I knew of at the time. She said sure and so I asked if she'd like to come meet me for coffee around her neighborhood so I can tell her what it's about. So we set it up and she didnt come that day, I called the house and her brother said she wasnt in yet. So I figured maybe something happened or I don't know.

But now, two years later, I've been divorced for a few months now. I've been kinda thinking about her on and off every now and then, just that "what if" you know? Just to see how it would be if we were to go out and she can see the real me, not the shy me that she used to know. So I'm thinking about calling her or maybe waiting around her neighboorhood and act like I'm accidentally bumping into her or something. I think calling would be easier, but what would I say? I don't even know if it's a good idea. All I know is that I'm willing to risk it whether she has a boyfriend now or not, I don't care. I just want to know what would be the best way to go about doing this.

Ok, if you were calling her again, what would you say exactly? I mean I don't know how to say it.

Answer 1

This is so sweet = )
Definitely talk to her.....and ask her out....(it's about time you did...7 YEARS!)

Answer 2

First call up some of your other old fiends that know her, or might still b in contact w/ her. Once u find out her status,( single, married, etc.) , if she's available, then maybe put out the word, (when you talk to your old friends), that u r divorced and would like to "catch up w/ her". If she doesn't call u, then u should definitely call her. Though, before I called her I would try to find out what she's been up to lately, (ie hobbies, food, sports, and other interests), that way when u talk to her you'll know what she's into and what the two of u have in common. This will also help you to suggest a good place to meet, somewhere where she'll feel comfortable. (if you end up getting together). Anyway GL. Hope it all works out 4 u.

Answer 3

I say ---->Go for it! Look at it this way,,you have nothing to lose , right? You can just have a casual conversation with her and see "whats up". Keep it light, don't drop all the gushy stuff in your first call with her!! Give her your phone number and leave the ball in her court. If she calls you then you know she is still interested. If not, well then,, its time for you to keep looking elsewhere.

Bottom line: Its defininetly worth going for what you want in life. Otherwise you will regret it in the years to come. Give it your best shot!! I hope it works for ya!! :)

Answer 4

you call and tell her the truth!!! don't make up lies about business propositions...she saw straight through you...why do you think she did not show up that time! I think you call and tell her exactly how you felt then and how you feel now. Good luck!!!!

Answer 5

well she did not meet you the last time. so i think the best thing to do is to bump in to her so she what she is getting

Answer 6

talk to her, try to feel her out, and go for it.