Everything has been going well with my boyfriend up until Wednesday when he heard from his boss that he will not promote him. Before this my boyfriend has been very nice and loving but since Wednesday he has been cold, distant and quite irritable easily with me. I called him last night and we got into a fight. He told me that it is not about me when I questioned him about him being so cold with me. He said that he is tired from work and fed up with everything. What can I do please? I am so worried.
2007-01-18 22:35:28 · 8 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys need their space when bad things happen. Our reaction as women is to try to nurture and "fix it" but this is just something he needs time to get his head around. Most guys withdraw when they're upset and your pursuing him into his "cave" (his safe space) is not going to help. He was honest when he said he's tired and fed up. Just let him be, or he'll be off away from you. He'll resurface when he's ready unless you drive him away with the smother routine.
2007-01-18 23:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by anna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time hun. I'm sure that in a few days, weeks the most, he will be as before. Now he's feeling as you're saying cause he wasn't promoted and he's feeling a bit useless. He told you that it's not your fault so don't worry about it. If I were you I'll give him my support and show him that you care for him and that you are there to help him. Make him feel that you need him and keep trust in him. But for the time being don't think strange things.
Hope this helps and Good Luck hun
2007-01-18 22:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im afraid this is why relationships cn be very difficult at times, all you can do is support your boyfriend and make him realise even tho work life is bad he doesnt need to bring it home, maybe plan a night in, cook him dinner, have a bath together with candles, and just try and get him to forget it for a while, he needs a distraction. but plz try not to bite back otherwise he will start to forget why he was angry and upset in the first place and may start to see you as part of the problem.
just tell him your hear for him and in your eyes he is great at his job and the company will regret it, maybe write him a nice card just to say your hear for him no matter what!!
2007-01-18 22:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a break... he doesnt need you on at him about love etc. whilst he's getting over the prospect of going nowhere in his current job. he's evaluating what he's gotta do next and obviously he's gonna be a bit depressed about being dumped on at work. just take him out for some booze and if he wants to talk about it he will. its not you he has a problem with by the sounds of it, but dont get needy on him,.....
2007-01-18 22:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs his space for now. Give him a day or two and than talk with him. If you really must do something than leave a nice message telling him to have a nice day on his voice mail or drop flowers off to him.
2007-01-18 22:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time to sort himself out, do things to take his mind off work as in taking him out to a romantic dinner and just avoid any subject concerning work, movies etc.
2007-01-18 22:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jocz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably upset about not getting a promotion. Just let him know you still love him and if he feels like talking you'll be there for him
2007-01-18 22:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him space hes obviously gutted he didnt get promoted but let him know your there if he needs to talk
2007-01-18 22:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋