I'm 34 & never been married. I've been seeing 2 women, one is a college student, & the other is a divorced mother of 2. They both know I'm seeing someone else, & they are fine with it. So am I wrong to be happy with things the way they are now or am I missing out by not getting married?? Just wondering what every one else thinks.
2007-01-18 21:33:55 · 17 answers · asked by Fab 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow...this is really a tough question. But if i am given a chance, i will not get married. I am 28, divorced with 3 kids. If life could turn back, i will never ever get married. It's all about family and financial burdens and sex. However, if you are the family lovely dovey kind, its fine, Just go ahead and get married! You may discover more adventures than not getting married. But the responsibility is really heavy, whether its towards spouse or kids in future. It's no longer about yourself and freedom anymore. But you can think about the grandchildren and warmness that you have in a family!
2007-01-18 21:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the reason you're happy with the way things are is because you haven't met "The One" yet. If you're just content with dating two ladies, it sounds like you don't have a passion for one or the other. There are lots of people who never get married, and there's nothing wrong with that. If everyone is happy with this relationship, why mess with something that works? Too many people get married because others around them expect it. If you're getting married because of others' expectations, you won't be very happy at all. Marriage should only take place when two people want to spend the rest of their lives together, building a family. <*)))><
2007-01-18 21:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong. I am single but i want to get married some day to a wonderful girl. At 34 you are missing out on a lot of good things about marriage. A wife is a wonderful thing. She is your best friend and best lover she takes care of you and you her. Think about it. She will be the most special thing in your life.
2007-01-18 21:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro, am nt happy the way things are, u need to choose btn the two becus a divorced woman is matured nd have u asked why she got divorced with her husband, ask urself! but the college student is nt and for them to stay 2gather will always bring hell to u when u marry both of them, and if only u think u have ur money and u can handle them, fine!, but pls dnt do things that u'll regret in the near future ok. so take my advice and choose the one u luv most. i'll choose the college student if i were u becus i want us to start life 2gather. Good luck in ur attempt. am out.
2007-01-18 21:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by nanevaluv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to not get married. It is wrong to marry just because you think you should.
If you're happy, and you're being honest with the women you date, then I wouldn't worry about what anyone else thinks. It's your life, and as long as you live it honestly, your opinion is that only one which matters.
2007-01-18 21:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with not wanting to get married,that is a choice you make for yourself.If you are comfortable and happy with your life as it is right now,then that is fine!You shouldn't get married ore even consider it just because you think your family/friends expect this of you...who are they to judge?Marriage is not the only key to a happy life....
2007-01-18 21:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by marjoleindnl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are missing out on not being married but that's because I'm married and know what you're missing!! Seriously though, if you don't fancy the idea of marriage then don't be forced into it as you'll only regret it :-)
2007-01-18 21:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are seeing only one woman, and ur loyal to her, i guess there's nothing wrong for not wanting to get married for now. but if you are seeing two women at same time, and trying to divide that time between the two of them, is a formula for disaster, maybe not now, but in the near future. u see even in circles, like for instance, muslim communities or even in some asian countries where the man is allowed to marry two or more wives, for as long as he can support the wives and the offsprings, envy and jealousy cannot be avoided.
besides, marriage is not just a piece of paper. its a lifetime commitment to your spouse, in sickness or in health, for richer for poorer, and so on. so if you think you are not yet ready for that lifetime commitment to only one spouse then you dont have to rush it.
2007-01-18 21:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by mela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems you wouldn't be asking unless you were questioning yourself. So I'm not sure why your asking other people when you might consider recognizing that you have some self doubt. If you're looking for a rubber stamp to condone your actions don't look here.
2007-01-19 04:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no im only 20 but me and my boyf bought a house but he asked me do i want to get engaged and i was like no plenty of time for **** like that and no your not missing out on anything relationships are ment to be crap when you married
2007-01-18 21:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by Blonde_o2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋