I`ve been with my b/f for over a year. A couple of weeks ago he told me he was bored in the bedroom. So i did the La Senza and ann summers bit and really tried. he wasn`t even bothered.
i went through his phone which i know i shouldn`t have but found pictures and messages from a bird and he`d been sending pictures back of bits of the lower part of his body. his excuse was he had to see weither it was him or me which was boring.
i apologised for being pants in bed and he sid he was also sorry i was pants.
what do i do? any advice would be welcome ta xx
2007-01-18 21:32:30 · 19 answers · asked by penclifford 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find someone nicer.
2007-01-18 21:35:11 · answer #1 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
O no, that's a really horrible thing for your b/f to say. You shouldn't have been going through his phone but he shouldn't be sending pics of his chinko about either!
I know you may not want to hear this but, maybe you should consider leaving him. Im not sure he's trustworthy enough. If he thinks the bedroom life is boring, he can go and find someone else with more 'excitment' whereas you can go and find someone who will really appreciate you a lot more.
2007-01-18 21:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mistress_T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey gurl..this dude is certainly not treatn u right.first of all it takes two u kno so if the lovin aint guud then it aint from u alone.u two have to talk about it n try experimenting new stuff together...also if the loving aint good that doesnt give him an excuse to take it outside da relationship.he is YOUR boyfreind and thus everypart of him is yours only! so to take pictures of private places for another bird n give u that dump excuse isnt right.i can bet u he is bored and is probably finding a way to call it quits cuz a year is jus too early to start cheating then what about in the next 5 yrs?..think about that girl!
u should talk things thru.tell him both of u can research from the net to find bedroom techniques that can spice it up cuz it takes two.if he aint prepared to do that then u should probably thank him for telling u he is bored this early in your relationship and not keeping it to himself then kiss him good bye.you deserve someone who is gonna treat u better cuz obviously u are really tryna please him but he is not doing da same...........good luck
2007-01-18 22:01:19 · answer #3 · answered by lovesexy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is "pants in bed" mean?
Rent an X - rated movie, buy a book on various positions and techniques, buy the Hite Report on Male Sexuality to find out what men want and like.
Good luck.
2007-01-18 21:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
classic case of man wanting all the cakes in the shop instead of just having the one and really enjoying it and making it last, you relationship is over, he will always be looking for something else for sexual release as he thinks you are not upto scratch, if you can live with that do it but if you can;t get out. or the alternative is to get one of your bestest girlfriends round get a camera relax enjoy. give it him as a leaving pressy and say who's pants now job knockey smell ya later dude. then get on with your life. x
2007-01-18 21:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by theoneandonlytigster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you read your question you'll find that you kinda answered it yourself.
I understand the effort you made for him and why you did it but did he do any thing to try and help the situation????
I think you know that things are going down hill. It sounds to me like he's lining up the next victim before he leaves you. In my honest opinion I would get outta there before he hurts you even more.
Nobody is saying that you don't have feelings for him but I think everyone who reads your question can see the disaster ahead. it is up to you but if my b/f sent any kinda message to girl like that he would be out the door before he could open his mouth to explain.
Good Luck!
2007-01-18 21:56:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to have no self respect, how can you expect anyone else to have respect for you, the man is an ****, you only get good in bed by being with someone you are comfit able with, who puts you at ease and with whom you want to experiment and learn, TOGETHER.
2007-01-18 21:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by Matthew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry he is being so mean to you, i would forget him and move on. i i know its easier said than done, but he is obviously going to stray if he hasn't already. it would be enough to get rid of him for texting someone else. you have made an effort, and i dont think the problem is how good you are in bed, i think the problem is his.
2007-01-18 21:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by lolljayne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that its hard to feel good about yourself after your b/f being such a jerk, but if I was you I would dump his *** and after about 3 days send him a message telling him that you have got a 2nd opinion and its definitely not you that is boring!!!!!!! Whatever else, hold your head high and don't let him knock your confidence.......good luck!!!
2007-01-18 21:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by Ollie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him now he will destroy your confidence and make it impossible for you to relax in futuire relationships, this guy sounds like he wants his cake and eat it and yet hes twisting it to make it seem its your fault!
gather what confidence you have left walk out the door and dont look back, do NOT be a doormat and make him recognise you will not chase him and you do deserve a hell of a lot better!! x
2007-01-18 21:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break up with him he is a jerk, find sum1 who will treat u with respect you dont deserve that xx
2007-01-18 21:51:40 · answer #11 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋