Hey everyone,
I think i may be depressed... but i dont know... I just found out my partner is going up to the mines for 6 months i am mooping around always wanting to cry moody not letting him go out what is wrong with me???? it is really irritating... what can i do??? do u think i have depression???
2007-01-18 21:23:26 · 12 answers · asked by Nat M 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Not seriously, I need medication depressed, but depressed because he is leaving for 6 months....what you can do is accept that, that is his job and he will be back, support him at this time because it won't be easy on him either...and just keep imagining the day he returns....those are much more productive...just an opinion...Good Luck hope you feel better soon.
2007-01-18 21:31:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
being sad is not an illness....
you are experiencing sadness and a level of grief too... your partner is going away and you will miss him... you wont have him around all the time like you do now and dont know what this will mean for you until it happens so you are naturaly worried...
It will take a little time to adjust especially if this is a new thing and he hasnt been away before... but it is important that you make sure you have plenty to keep you busy while he is away. Book yourself into a course to learn a new skill or craft. take up a hobby. or plan on spending more time with your friends while he is away or a little of each of these things....
talk to him about how sad you feel and what worries you may have about him going away... ask him to help you deal with these feelings by making a plan with you about when and how you will communicate with one another while he is away... it wont necessarily be possible for him to call you at the same time every day but perhaps if you know you can rely on a phone call from on monday wednesday and friday each week sometime between 5pm and 8pm then you can detach a little and know that he will ring you then.....or maybe he would be okay about texting you each morning....
I do know that many people who work on mines work really long and weird shifts.... they often work many days in a row and then have several days off in a row.... so maybe some exactly regula r times wont be possible for phone calls etc... but he can let you know from one phone call to the next when he will call next time and when you will see him...
the important thing here is to communicate with him about your feelings and needs... and to hear hhis feelings and needs.... and make some sort of a flexible plan about how you will stay in touch..
2007-01-19 07:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have depression. If you feel completely helpless and that it's not worth leaving your bed when you wake up in the morning, neglect to take care of yourself (for example, you've stopped showering and eating regularly) or find it extremely difficult to enjoy what you normally love to do, for *over 2 weeks*, you probably have depression. Depression sometimes has causes but it's also about a chemical imbalance in your brain.
Sadness is not depression, and it's normal to feel sad when someone you care about it going to be away from you, in a not-so-great-environment for a long time. Talk to someone you're close to about it and get comfort and support from some friends. Ask your partner if can call him/her often so you can stay in contact.
2007-01-18 21:29:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to cry when your partner is going off for many months. But if the grief and mental pain persists for many days and makes you too sick, pl. consult a doc for help. If you lack insurance or don't want to take all the pills alternative health solutions like Homeopathy, Bach Flowers, Reiki etc. are available. Check them out. Talk to some other friends for support.
2007-01-18 21:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by Swamy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think you have a mixture of sadness and the daunting thought of your partner going away for so long. It is a shock at first but believe me over time, is not that you get used of it but you learn to manage them going away for so long. I know how you feel but you will get through it. I used to look at it........that its not for ever and it keeps the romance alive through correspondence and the lead up to them coming home. I am married to an serviceman, who now works away off shore. Hang in there love it does get easier.
2007-01-18 22:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Went through the same thing dear....had to watch my hubby board a plane, off to Iraq for over a year....to watch that plane take off took part of me with it....yes, you probably are depressed...this is normal....if you love your partner like I do my hubby...it is LOVE....!....try to just "get a grip" though hon....it will help out later.....and too hon...maybe see a doctor...get something for the depression...
2007-01-18 21:30:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound depressed, you sound upset.
Its normal to feel sad sometimes, your only human. Just keep reminding yourself that the sadness will pass.
Peace n God Bless,
me :)
2007-01-18 21:32:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your sad if it last more than 3 weeks go for counseling good luck
2007-01-18 22:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by lorie v 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its normal. youll miss your partner. just busy yourself with something to make the time shorter.
2007-01-18 21:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by eightieschick70 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to 'MAI' at the top of the page, she knows what shes talking about
2007-01-19 12:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by fireman sam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋