Me and my friend were pulling out of hooters and we saw a bad car wreck and we stopped to help.. we ran over to the car and saw three people inside that were not moving. one woman was obviously dead because her neck was nealed over in a way that the spine does not allow unless broken. I didn't know what to do. I was yelling at people to help her but everyone told me not to touch anybody. I looked at the other car and there was a guy walking around with his arm just hanging on...There was a women in the back seat who was face down and was also dead who was not in a seatbelt. and then the driver woke up and looked at his two passengers dead. I couldnt take it. Then the police came and radiod that he had two possible fatalitys.. I had to leave. I have never sean that before and didn't know what to do. Her eyes were like looking at me. I can't stop thinking about this.
2007-01-18 21:09:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ First Aid
Well, I went and woke up my mom and talked to her and I really do feel better. I was so scared to even open my door because i felt like that poor dead woman was on the other side.. She told me that everything would be okay, and that this kind of stuff happens. it felt good hearing it from my mom. I woke her up at 4:30 am and she did not even care. Thank you for all of your support. talking about it has already helped and this happend less that hours ago.
2007-01-18 22:12:20 · update #1
First of all, you are doing the right thing by talking about it. That is EXACTLY what you need to be doing. As the previous person said, seeing some sort of counselor would probably be good, but it may not be necessary. Talk to your friends, talk to your family...share your feelings with your close friends and family.
If you don't have any close friends, or you still have recurring thoughts of this after some time goes by, then you should probably consider going to a counselor.
Of course you are going to be upset and even traumatized by what you saw, this is nothing abnormal. You shouldn't feel bad, or shame.
If you do seek a counselor, there are probably free or very low cost ones available if you are in even a medium sized city. Just look in your phone book for the health services section or call your doctor and ask for a recommendation.
Good luck! Just use this as a growing and learning experience. You should even think about writing in a journal about it, or writing in a journal every day about anything and eveything. It will take some time, but you will process this and it will make you stronger.
Good luck!
2007-01-18 21:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by mantis_kung_fu 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a very traumatic thing to experience.I know exactly what your feeling my friend.Visions like that tend to scar your memory but you will eventually become desensitised to the horrible event over time.In the mean time it's a good idea to be able to talk about it with someone ie,family or close friends.Or even seek out some sort of trauma counselling.Don't underestimate the power of compassion.Just because your a guy don't think for a minute that your less sensitive and don't be afraid to get help if you need it.Take care
2007-01-18 21:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Eat My Shorts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I'm sorry for you that you had to make this experience!! I'm working at a hospital so I know how you feel, I've seen many people die before, and it's not easy. What you need to do right now is get some professionell help. Go to a therapist, only a professionell person can help you dealing with that kind of stuff. And it's also not a shame going to a therapist either. You need that help so go and get it, it's not gonna get easier if you just ignor it.
Good luck!
2007-01-18 21:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by BES 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to here that. I have seen incidents like that and reciently helped in a car wreck, am a first aider so it was a responsibility i had to do even though i didnt need too. It is hard to face someone dead but the way i say is to forget about it the best you can as you did your best and there was nothing you or anyone could have did. Go and see someone, talk about it. take care xx
2007-01-18 21:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by maz999379 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put this in perspective. People live and die that's a part of life. It's unfortunate you had to see something like that but your not a weak person just not experienced w/ that kind of scene. Police officers, Dr.'s, paramedics, firemen deal w/ this kind of thing all the time. At one time they never saw a dead body either but you come to realize you can't "feel" for everyone who dies because you'll go crazy.
2007-01-18 21:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing, what a horrible experience that must have been. It's natural for you to feel upset by it. You are doing the right thing, talk about how you feel and how upset you are. The experience will never leave you completely but gradually the memories will fade and become less distressing
2007-01-19 20:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Its not easy just remember that we had a begining and we will have an end. Remember where we come from and where we go when we leave the world. May god bless you. There is a meaning for life now to you. God might have chosen you to watch and love your own life. Do something good.
2007-01-18 21:20:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
im so sorry you had to go threw that . that is a tramatic horrible thing to go threw. i no its not easy but try not to thik about it. otherwise is goign to rule your likfe if you constantly think about it. try to forget it or atleast not thinka bout it all the time. im sure in a while it will be eaier and easier to not thinkb aout. bu you are doing a good think to get it out of your mind and talk about it. talkling about alot of things is a good first step to relax yourself , if you keep things like this bottled up its alot worse. you can of course ttry to go to a therapist . they deal with things liket his alot im guessing. theres ntohing rong with going to one either and im sure they can makeyou feel alot better. i really hope this helps and i hope that eveverything works out for you :]
2007-01-20 03:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by i_love_ dancing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to have to find a place in the back of your mind to put this. If you dwell on it all the time it will control you. Box it up, put it away, then leave it there.
2007-01-18 21:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by djm749 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are fortunate to have a caring mother who will listen to you.
I have found a good way to put it behind you is to talk talk talk it out.Then if you need talk to a professional.But don't let eat you up.
2007-01-19 00:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Tom B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋