actually she thinks that we should have sex on oour first night but i cant hold my feelings.
2007-01-18 20:31:45 · 13 answers · asked by diesel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
your going to marry her mate, at least have a little respect for her
2007-01-18 20:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Calebs Mummy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It´s difficult to convince a girl to do sex if she has such strong moral beliefs.
Tell her that you love her so much and that you really don´t see the point to wait until marriage.
Just be gentle and soft with her, don´t force her into an uncomfortable situation.
kiss her, hold her and touch her body and maybe one thing comes to another. Don´t tell her: "Hey, I want to make sex with you..." Just let feelings flow and step by step she may forget about her old fashioned morality...
In the case it does not work out all you can do is respect her decision... ans WAIT!!
I personally think it´s so stupid to wait till marriage - what for?? Loosing time??
2007-01-18 20:53:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anita P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense but why are u marrying someone you're not sure you're sexually compatible with?? (that should be a question! lol) Is money involved?? Because I know our neighbors who needless to say 'waited' and he found out his wife had other darker issues and needless to say, after a $exless marriage and $ spent on a Cinderella wedding, they're headed to divorce court.
2007-01-18 20:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant make her agree, it would not be right. You should have respect for her. This is her decision so let her keep her decision. In a relationship, you both should respect each others views, if you cant, then dont get married
2007-01-20 12:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by rockandrollrev 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait it will be worth it...don't spoil the moment too soon...honor her feelings. It won't be sex...It will be making love...for your heart, souls and phsyical being will be intertwined as one...this is a moment of true ecstasy...there is no limit to the passion that will flow...do you want to mess the up by have just sex....
2007-01-19 22:43:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till your wedding night for sex. It's worth waiting if you have any respect for the sanctitiy of marriage.
As for oral sex, Iif she is not up to it, it dosen't mean she doesn't love you.
2007-01-19 02:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by sheetal501 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay sex is CONSENUAL. so if you are marrying someone to be with for the rest of your life u need to cover the issue of sex. and marrying her is not a tool to get her to have oral sex. to be respectful of your mate you need to ensure that she too is comfortable with it and not try to "guilt" her into doing anything. before april i suggest counseling of the sexual kind.
2007-01-19 00:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by ray g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push her. If you've waited for however long you've been together to have sex what's 3 more months? It will be better that way then to have her mad at you for coercing her into sex when she really didn't want to.
2007-01-18 20:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go take a cold shower and give the little lady the respect she deserves
2007-01-18 20:38:30 · answer #9 · answered by sickand tired 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hold on till you get married or use your hand.
2007-01-19 00:34:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋