of failed relationships from the past.He told me he didn't expect me to wait for him.Now he's back asking 4 another chance,he says while he's dealing w/his issues,I could meet someone else and he would regret the fact that he would have lost a good thing forever and he's not willing to take that risk.He says he's genuinly honest this time about what he wants.I'm kind of afraid to give him another chance,that he may do the same thing again.I mean we some obstacles will have to deal with when it comes to public,besides me dealing w/his pain.He is 24 & I am 34,and he's african-american and I am hispanic.
2007-01-18 19:56:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To begin w/we were the best of friends and after the break-up we remained good friends.
2007-01-18 19:59:25 · update #1
the truth is, he may do it again. but how will you know if you don't try? you just have to decide if he is worth the risk. Just follow your heart! I know that doesn't answer your question, but really no matter what I say it's only your opinion that matters. here are the things to consider. if you think you guys can work through his problems, and being with him makes you happy, I say go for it. however, if you think you guys would lose a friendship and his problems from the past would hinder your relationship too bad for there to be a decent shot at it working, I would give him time. He may work through his problems and you guys can try it then. or if he doesn't, or in the meantime you find someone else you will still have his friendship because there was no messy breakup. as far as the other obstacles from the public. WHO CARES?! if the age difference doesn't bother you nor does the race difference, sweetie, grab him. you are trying to make yourself happy, not the public. and the truth is, the public is always going to have problems with couples because it is in peoples nature to judge. if it wasn't age or race it would be something else. do just follow your heart and do what is going to make you happy! sorry I rambled on. Hope some of this is a help and/or inspiration. I wish you luck and love!
2007-01-18 20:11:55 · answer #1 · answered by ThaLuvBug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel like this is ok either. My ex did the same thing, take a look through my questions about my ex, he put me through the same thing for years. Only when he stayed my friend he tried to get me back and control who I dated by saying he was just being my friend. They say if you love something set it free and if it comes back it's yours, he's come back you've set him free. Now what you have to watch for is another cliche, fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. Don't be the fool as I was, see how it goes this time but never let a man in and out of your life more than once. Good luck:)
2007-01-18 20:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its intresting how you put your ages and races like it's something your concerned about? That stuck out like a sore thumb to me. Who really cares...anyways... Lots of us aren't ready at others beckincall to jump into another relationship expecially when u had a bad one just end. I understand where this guy is coming from. SO I say yes give him another chance actually i say of course give him another chance...hopefully he's all better and the two of u can move on together. Good luck!!!
2007-01-18 20:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by laura k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your heart says that you shoud give a chance to him then you can give. But what is the sure that he would not do the same to you?
You have to careful in this regard, coz this may be the last chance you have given. So you should carefully select that after this you would not let to cry
2007-01-18 20:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do YOU want to give him another chance?
Are you willing to go through all the trouble, just to make sure you took the chances that could have built some special?
Do you want to make sure you won't say in the future 'What If'?
If yes to all the above, give him a 2nd chance but NO 3rds... If you're doubting... you need time for yourself to make your desicions..
2007-01-18 20:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by Serendipity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! I've been there and done exactly that ( I'm 43 now) Don't go backwards in life is a good motto, especially when the past involves pain.
2007-01-18 20:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should. they say when you love something let it go, if it comes back to you it's yours, that works both ways, even if it wasn't your choice to let him go. Keep your wits about you but definitely give him a chance to prove what you mean to him
Good luck
xx
2007-01-18 20:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the decision is yours...if you really love him and want to keep the relationship alive and glowing...then give him another chance...
best of luck!
2007-01-18 20:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by cheen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something ain't right! I cannot put a finger in it, but not all is well, you feel it too thus the question
2007-01-18 20:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by blondedarkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya i think u shud give him another chance because if u think about it he only left u cuz he was thinking about u n ur feelings
2007-01-18 20:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋