...he says that when he orgasms he feels trashy & like a freak. He used to 'get around' quite alot in the hope he would feel loved he has told me. And even though we have been together for nearly a year and love each other very much he still has these feelings from his past. This is a very complicated situation because I want to make love to him and I don't know if by doing so I will bring on these feelings..I'm so confused..I try to talk to him about it but he keeps on pushing the subject away..He says he gets his satisfaction from seeing me satisfied during sex but the thing is that that goes both ways - I want to pleasure him so that he is satisfied. If somebody has been through this before or has some advice it would be appreciated.
Thankyou.
P.S This is a Gay Relationship and by 'recieving sex' I mean any type of sex not just penetrative.
2007-01-18 19:56:09 · 4 answers · asked by nickname000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am the same way as him. I totally know how he feels. PLEASE just know that it isn't YOU by any means. It's problems he has within and he needs counseling to get these issues resolved and out. It will make him feel better!! I hope this helps!
2007-01-18 20:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by LuVmYfAmiLY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW! that's a lot of information, and a tough situation
I agree with you and think that sex goes both ways and is impossible to enjoy when you know the other person is miserable.
I have a feeling that this man's parents/friends/religion has told him it's not okay to be homosexual and act on his beliefs. I recommend socializing with other homosexuals and doing things together...i'm an advicate of you coming out of the closet so that he no longer feels like he's "hiding" something. This is obviously a physocoligical problem for him, so try getting a counsoler that can help you work through this problem.
P.S. Sex is the ultimate act of showing love, and as long as it's a serious relationship t(more than "hooking up) there is no sin in it. Nowhere in the bible does it say two men can not love each other.
2007-01-19 04:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by thank you come again 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry sex is again very different every partner. but the rule is both or all the partners must enjoy. there should be a crompromise on any individual s enjoyment.we have to learn what make the other partner happy and we should be happy doing it for them
2007-01-19 04:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by hrnycuk 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please, please don't engage in homosexual behavior. It's not right.
2007-01-19 03:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋