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Obviously there are going to be two camps - those who say "let him be, he will grow out of it" and those who suggest things to try to help him overcome his shyness. I firmly believe that some children inherit shyness - no rhyme nor reason, they just do. One of my granddaughters was very shy growing up and she was left to grow out of it on her own. She never did, and dreams the impossible dream of being a famous singer when she would never sing to anyone except her mom and me. My other granddaughter (my son's daughter) seemed somewhat shy also, but her mother was the bubbly, forceful type who just bulldozed her kids (son and daughter) into doing whatever she felt they should - soccer, singing in choir, gymnastics, dance lessons, sports, etc, - and now as young adults they are both outgoing, and not at all shy. In my heart, I feel that perhaps that attitude and the insistence on doing things in spite of shyness may have overcome it. Whatever you do, it will probably be wrong. That's the way of motherhood. ha ha

2007-01-18 21:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by sick-ovit-all 3 · 0 0

Put him in a comfortable environment where he can learn to interact with other kids. I've always been shy, and now I'm 20 years old and for the past few months I've been depressed often because I'm so shy that I have no friends and am convinced I will grow old and die totally alone.

2007-01-19 03:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 0 1

I can totally relate to your frustration in watching your son deal with his world! My three year old daughter was a shocker! She even had trouble talking to her grandparents! Here is something that seemed to help her out of her shell. Pick a close and trusted friend who is good with the little ones, Ask your friend to spend increasing amounts of time {Start with 5minsay] with your son in his own enviroment on his own with you close by, say his room while you are in ..the laundry? {perhaps the toilet...yor son cant follow you there!!! Ask your friend to try and engage your son in conversation about whatever.. or perhaps just playing to start with. This way your son feeels secure, at home with you close by and he will gain confidence in his ability to talk to and entertain another person without you! He will begin to believe that he is interesting to other people outside of his family. Slowly increase the times untill his hesitations have ceased. You could also try giving your son special "jobs" such as paying for the groceries and remembering to thank the shop assistant, paying a cab driver, giving someone a message, calling grandma or someone on the phone and giving them a message ect My daughter found friends in the most unlikley places! Our local butcher was her first independant friend , she told her daddy "I love you as much as the world....and the butcherman!!" I hope this will be of some help to you and your son,, If not , take heart they usually grow out of it , then you wont be able to shut him up.......Do you know how long my teenager spends on the phone??!!! good luck!!!!

2007-01-19 05:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Consider carefully to discover why. If you think hard enough you may be able to come up with some possible answers. Could his outside relationships (possibly other children?) be playing a part? Could your interactions with him be having an affect? What activites can you engage him in that he would enjoy and might build his confidence?

2007-01-19 04:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by itry007 4 · 0 0

As they grow older they are more aware of themselves and the surroundings/people around them. Don't worry. This is natural. Let him grow out of it naturally.

2007-01-19 03:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jade 2 · 0 0

if he is growing shy maybe he dosent know so much. why dont you show him places. go to parks let him make friiends in this way he will be able to be less shy. because he knows this place or he has his friends to take him.

2007-01-19 03:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by deadman12319 1 · 0 0

Does he have many other children to play with, I would recommend getting him out more often, and playing with other kids around his age.

2007-01-19 03:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by Matt's Verizon Account 1 · 0 0

that will change when he gets to school, especially in grade 2 I find they blosom

2007-01-19 05:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

just leave it be

2007-01-19 03:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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