It is the child that acts a certain way in an environment. A child can do something for attention, yet in the same environment a sibling of the same age and gender can react totaly different. People blame parents... and then the parents blame themselves... can't it be ok that we are all doing our best.... why must we be blamed or cristisized if our child acts a certain way?
2007-01-18 19:48:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Face it we are products of our environment. When a small child acts out in public people will look the other way, or try to sooth the child. When they are tots it is acceptable for them to throw fits, or cry for no reason. When the child is nine ten eleven even at five or six the public expects you to have instilled proper behavior skills in them.
When a seven year old is throwing a fit in a store people expect to see you either correct them or remove them.
Its not that people think you arent doing your best, they think that you should handle the right now to their satifaction.
Think about it this way, you are a parent, their parent, and NO_ONE has the right to judge your parenting skills. We can only hope and pray that they dont totally embarrass us, and when they do, all we can do is grin and thank god that we have them at all.
2007-01-18 20:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by lobsterdos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on what the kid is doing and how old they are. I'm not really sure what situations you are referring to. Sure there are kids that are hyper and may not have control over themselves at appropriate times. This may be a short circuit in their wiring so to speak. I can truly empathize with these parents. Lets face it all parents have been in a situation where their child has acted out and although they may try to handle the situation it backfires and they end up looking like a totally inept parent. However, I see kids lie, cuss, act foul, tease others and know way too much about adult things at a young age. These kids lack respect for other people. I would be more likely to pin this behavior on the parents. Sure, I would feel bad if the parent really was trying to do their best. However most kids that act out like that have parents that just don't give a crap. They are home alone after school, have no interests, and are allowed to watch and do anything they want. Too many parents are just really immature themselves and don't even realize how their kids are behaving. While you may be doing your best, unfortunately many parents out there aren't.
2007-01-18 20:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by Swim Mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason why the Gaming industry has a Rating System. Just like movies. I'm almost 16 and my Dad started letting me play M games when I turned 15. Really, don't blame the video games, they are made for different age groups. It still annoys me hearing little 11 year olds using language I have never used (ei racial slurs F-bombs). I mean most of the games aren't even that bad, look at the SAW series in theaters. Lots of teens see that, it's really graphic, you know people having to fill up gallons of blood by putting their hands through buzz saws? Not many people seem to be complaining about that. And the argument that kids a killing each other because of these games, look at the smoking industry, the fast food industry. Really parents just check out the rating system, it is actually pretty good and covers a wide spectrum of things.
2016-05-24 06:15:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is indeed one kid that's acting out and the siblings are fine, then it's probably not the parents' fault, then it's probably something else like ADHD or something... some kids are just really difficult, just like you can get a very nice kid growing up in a ghetto who'll never get in trouble and ends up going to university you can also have a criminal growing up in a very nice family. But most of the time it's the parents who determine the way a child behaves, at least when it's still younger, preschool and such... I am not saying it's easy but when brats are just running around and the parents are nowhere in sight then yes it is their fault. The older a child gets the harder it gets to control them but if the base is right -where the child has been taught about values but also hasn't been held so tight that he wants to do anything to escape first chance he gets- then chances are definitely greater he'll be able to resist temptations when he goes out on his own, exploring town, hanging out at school, etc. Parents aren't the only influence in a child's life but they are a very great one, especially before school age!
2007-01-18 20:09:01 · answer #4 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of the reson a child acts a certain way is how the parents raised (or didn't raise) them. Of course other things infuence, but parents are the main influence. If the kid is a whiny out of control brat, chances are the parent did a suck job of parenting. When a child is small, you teach them how to behave through your own actions. As they get bigger, they choose things for themselves. But that foundation will always be there. If the kid has a good foundation, chances are they'll turn out ok.
3 children running around and yelling at a restaurant is bad parenting.
2007-01-18 20:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because parents are supposed to teach children how to act and how not to act.If the child is acting up, and the parents don't do anything about it, then they are condoning bad behaviour, so they are to blame.
2007-01-18 20:53:40 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhh...yeah parents can only do their best but,it is the parents job to teach their children how to behave and be human beings, with manners and humility, and tact. You bring a life into this world and you have to mold a portion of their personality..thats your job. You cant like, send them to school and expect educators to teach your children to behave in public and like, chew with their mouth closed..and not throw tantrums..and such.
2007-01-18 19:53:44 · answer #7 · answered by Minty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's no set formula for why kids act like that. Sometimes it is the parent's fault, but not always.
2007-01-18 19:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are a result of two possible things. Nature and nurture. When a person is a child the parents are the biggest contributor to these two things.
If you really cannot control your brats then please hang a sign around their neck that others are free to whoop them.
2007-01-18 19:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Kids are still small and do not know anything yet so parents are blamed for their kids behavior.
2007-01-18 19:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jocelyn G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋