I have a real problem with some of my friends. I have been friends with them for a very long time, but the past few years I have been the only one being the friend. I always have to call them if I want to talk to them. I understand we have our own lives and live a few hours away but they always want to act like we are still the best of friends. They always want to talk about themselves and their problems, and I can't ever get a word in edge wise. It makes me really sad that the people that I thought were my best friends are too involved with their own lives to pick up the phone and call someone they claim to care so much about. Even though I love them and miss them I want to say to hell with them at the same time. I don't know, what should I do?
2007-01-18 19:26:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
grow up, they arent friends, make friends of the people who live near you and forget these jerks.
2007-01-18 19:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel i am in a similar situation. I am only contacted when there is an emergency, like drive to another state to pick them up because they got in a fight with their significant other, just to go back a day or so later. It has happened a few times now. When she goes back, I don't get any calls or even an email.
I stopped trying to make the contact now. I didn't stop caring, but, I have to care about what I go through trying and getting little response. The person and I spent all our time together and lived together before to go to nothing and being used. It hurts. In fact, most of the people I was very close to, which I didn't allow very often, have all basically done the same over time.
Friends do fade away with time, it sucks. I wouldn't cut them off, but only make the effort it you feel it is still worth it. Most people are too involved with themselves, you are right. My heart goes out to you for I feel your pain.
2007-01-19 03:38:09 · answer #2 · answered by just another guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Brooke, take is cool. Man this is what is happening to every one. Do you think it is only you , i am also sailing in same boat. We used to spend 6 hours every day but now we meet once in month. We forgot to wish each other on birthday's, we call but it is all superficial.
People get tied up with so much happening in their own life. You have 2 options either leave them or keep it going.
It seems you are emotional but you have to be hard with you.
I suggest keeping friendship same as they keep it. You we need a friend , so go on look for someone else who has time for you.
OK, example you bought a shirt, you can't where one shirt for every day and for years together. You have to have few in your wardrobe that is how they all last longer.
Don't limit your friend ship to couple of them may be someone else like you wants a real friend. So start looking for someone who can share time with you but keep the old cards in you pocket you don't know when they will be useful.
2007-01-19 03:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by Nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With friends there is a season or a reason why you are friends. When the season passes or the reason is no longer there the friendship moves to a back burner to once more be picked up when the reason or season return.
There is no one to be blamed it's just a fact of life. It is quite painful when you are a better friend than you are befriended. I was like you always the one to initiate...I came to terms with it and now if I initiate three times in a row...the third time is the last.
2007-01-19 03:53:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did it ever occur to you that placing a phone call to someone can come up at a very inconvenient time for him/her? You might want to accept the fact that there are circumstances when people want to be left alone (even for a long time). A couple telephone calls on Saturday mornings have ruined a great deal in my life, you know.
2007-01-19 03:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you must look into their situations first before getting paranoid about this. you must also think that they have lives to attend to. get into their shoes, if you found out that they have bigger problems than you have, try to be more understanding. on the other hand if, you found out that its a "forgot you friend" case, then i think you should let go of them and don't expect any help from them.. what's the best thing that you can do is , find new friends. go out where there are more pleasant persons, get their numbers, and enjoy the company.
2007-01-19 03:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by zhel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fill your pain girl I’m in the same boat. Crazy thing is I’m a dude sounds gay I know, but you wanna chat email me maybe its time we found new friends and worried about ourselves and not some much others. Just a though ill chat with ya.
2007-01-19 03:33:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should make that proplem cleare 2 them if they didnt understand that as abig problem betwen friends
that mans that they dont have the honor to be ur friends u r a loyal friend but they r not
2007-01-19 03:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things.Ether you can become one of them,or leave and find new friends with whom you are more comfortable.I'll say leave.You shouldn't be stressed out of your friendship.You don't seem to be comfortable.And you are not too important to them.Sorry,just being honest here.
2007-01-19 03:37:13 · answer #9 · answered by avavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur the last resort....sux huh? i've been in those shoes...just ignore them....wait for them to call...they should kno its a 2 way street...
2007-01-19 03:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by Wht Hare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋