for no reason.I am a mother of two and i look good.I am nice and respectfull to people.Just because i am confident,some family members have said that i am stock up,nose in the air person.Why?Part of me doesn't care,but the other part is angry.So when i see them now,i am more distant and don't know how to be around them.I like them,i want to proove them wrong.But they have pushed me away and i can't get close.Tell me what you think?
2007-01-18 19:25:31 · 9 answers · asked by avavu 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you for your suport.All the answers are the best.Isn't it strange while your family puts you dawn,totall strangers comfort you.Thanks again.
2007-01-19 20:49:55 · update #1
Kill them with kindness. It will drive them crazy!
2007-01-18 19:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my brother used to have that same problem, i even told him to his face that he sometimes acted like he was better than everybody, he asked me what he could do to change that image, and i said that i didn't know, and he wrote this song (he's a producer), and some of it says"i am not cocky, i just have a confident presence", don't let them people get you down, i almost sometimes wish that my dad's part of the family was a little more down to earth, but with them, it's all about who's who, and who is the most high and mighty, while my dad's generation, doesn't really have the problem that their parents have, and neither does my generation,and we all just laugh about it when we hear them comparing each others lives and whatnot. On the other hand, my mom's side of the family thinks that WE are the stuck up ones, just because we don't live in the ghetto living from paycheck to pacheck, we live in one of the nicer areas of town, and have a rather large house, they just don't realize how much we had to go through to get there, and we don't brag about it, we are just greatful for it all, but at the same time realize that it's just phyisical things, that is how my parents have taught my brother and i, but some people don't see that, and i have come to realize that there is nothing that you could do about those type of people, but move on and let them think what they want, you just have to know where your heart lies, and what you believe. You can't change other people's minds-Sorry.
2007-01-19 03:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Confused & Young 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bite the bullet move on... no point in dwelling in the past if they can't compromise or resolve the problematic issues as a family with you than so be it. Change works both ways. Make the effort first. Remember denial & lack of wisdom all make the change process difficult. Do the best you can to keep a respectful relationship going whenever it arises. People who love you will stick by you family or not just cut them off if they are non responsive to your needs per say. It's easier said than done cause I'm in a similar boat lol. So best to put our love & efforts to people of value vs. they'd know you best warts & all. Cheers. 99
2007-01-19 03:44:34 · answer #3 · answered by 99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its painful when anyone says anything negative, and even more so when its family. I can't explain why someone would do this, other than jealousy. I know you probably don't want to hear this, but a few years ago, rather than get angry with people, I decided to try the "kill'em with kindness" attitude, and it is so much easier on me. For every time they said something that would hurt, or treated me in a way I thought was not fair, I said something nice to them, or did something nice for them. It takes so much negative energy to be angry and hurt. I know I have felt like a better person for it. I hope this helps.
2007-01-19 03:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know your self very well, im telling you NO ONE ever can hurt you!If things are not true and you know ur not that kind of person........those will never affect you! Tips here are 1. dont take things seriously 2.If you dont mean it dont say it 3.Dont assume things.Dont allow anyone to ruin your day
2007-01-19 03:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by cris frank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i realize now that people will say whatever they want because its all coming from their thoughts...you can't read a person's mind or change the way they think....therefore be yourself and unless your hurting someone it shouldn't matter what ANYONE thinks...even family...
2007-01-19 03:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by Wht Hare 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a hard balance. been dealing w/outrageously jealous people all my entire life. when u want a break become a hermit. that always works
2007-01-19 03:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by deirdrefaith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat them at their own game, dont let it bother you, let them think what they want, just be strong
2007-01-19 05:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by monica4rd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself.Maybe they are jealous because you are more confident then they are.
2007-01-19 06:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋