First Date Ideas (could use a little help)?

Question

alright well im about to ask this girl out for the first time, and im one of those shy guys that can barely talk to her let alone ask her out but i know she likes me so i shouldn't be denied, anyway i still have to figure out what we're gonna do if i take her out, i was thinking a picnic or even i'm a good chef i could have her over at my house and make her a nice dinner, i just don't really want to take her to a movie cause thats like 2 hours of just sitting there when we should really be getting to know each other. Anyway should i supprise her with some flowers or is that a little too tacky? Could you give me a few conversation starters cause we're both sorta on the quiet side? And when im taking her home should i try and get a kiss when i walk her to her door or should i just let it happen (if i just let it happen i probably won't notice it unless it slaps me right in the face)?

Answer 1

Ha, you are cute.
Anyway, find out what the girl is into. Does she like sports, music, roller/ice skating? The beach, going for a walk around a lake?
Don't invite her to your place for dinner. If she is shy, it is too heavy for a first date.

So first, just casually ask her if she would like to do something sometime, then get her phone number. Call her once or twice to feel her out and get ideas of things that she likes to do. Always call her with a reason like "I just read this article in the paper and it made me think of you because you mentioned you...blah blah." Or "The other day the funniest thing happened and I thought I would call and tell you about it...."
After a couple of 10-minute phone calls, set a date, but tell her you will come up with something to do. A day before the date, call her again and let her know the plan (so she knows what to wear and prepare for.)

And- if all goes well, definatley move in for a kiss at the end of the date. It is expected now days.

Answer 2

Ok well I am taking it that your an adult so inviting her to a home cooked meal sounds like a perfect idea.... although if she is shy you may want to give her an alternative like a nice cozy restaurant where you can both talk but it is more of an equal grounded place to begin your friendship.... Flowers are always a nice thing to be given esp on the first date altho saying flowers you could pick out one stemmed flower eg a rose or a gerbera rather than a whole bunch? or perhaps you could get her a pair of beaded earrings saying you noticed she wore a lot of this colour and figured it was her favorite colour? Or if she reads a book get her a nice bookmark.....Girls love it when it shows that you are interested in them and that you have put some thought into the date. You must have something in common for you to notice her so that is always a good topic to start with eg work or how nice was the walk here, etc. You sound like you both like each other so conversation will be easy once started. Good luck !!! And remember to breath and have fun ! First dates are always followed by others so a mistake is just that and can always be retified

Answer 3

Flowers, presented at the door, preferably one red rose, or a red rose and a white rose intertwined. Buy it at a flower shop, or arrange to pick it up that same day. Have a little vase thing, they sell it at the flower shop, so she can put it on her nightstand, after you give it to her, and then she can look at it all night, after your date.

Make sure (I'm not being rude, some guys Do Not care) you are showered, shaved, and wearing clean clothes. Dress up a little to show you are trying, but also give her an idea of where you are going. Like so that she won't be wearing a dress if you are in blue jeans, and vice versa.

If you have a car, clean it. Real good. If you are taking a taxi, that's cool. Manage your budget for the date so that you got spare money left over so that she can catch a taxi, whatever.

Movies are cool it's nice to hold hands in a movie. But something fun, is cool too. Sometimes it is okay to go to a pizza place and get food. Most girls are not all up for a fancy dinner on the first date, but it depends.

A picnic might be nice, depending what the temperature outside is.

Years ago, I would not say to press for a kiss, but I don't know what people are doing now. Let her know you had a great time, you'd like to see her again. Don't try to pin her down as to when the next date might be unless she volunteers. Tell her you will call and do so in about 2 or 3 days, unless she calls you first.

Do not bring her home too late, and respect her parents, no matter what they might say to you, good, bad or indifferent. Esp if she has a father a LOT of them will come off with a tough guy act like you muff her up, I will kill you. It might not be a lie. most times it is a test, depending on if she's dated jerks or had bad experiences before. Sometimes the dad thinks of her as his property, sometimes it's a test to see how manly you are.

Sometimes the family will say they are happy with her dating, but will be SERIOUSLY jealous of ANYONE taking her out and you will take flak for it big time.

But pizza, an amusement park (bot not this time of year, at least in the US. brr.) Perhaps an indoor aquarium, if you have one in your city. If you are of science mind. Observatories, again , space / science types. Some girls might like to go to the mall, walk around get some food, record store, listening to CDs, gauge it on similar interests. Do what she wants, unless she has no proeference, then you decide for both of you. Do not talk and talk about yourself. Do NOT Scope out other girls. lol lots of guys do that because when with a girl, every girl in the room will be scoping you out. Don't go there.

Good luck. :)

Answer 4

Take a class together.
Wine-tasting?
Photography?
Or cut to the chase with a massage class.

dont 4get!!!!.....Manners and/or Kindness

Thank the other person for the date - always, without exception.
Good manners are still in style. Well, not necessarily good manners - but common sense. Human kindness. That sort of thing is always in style.

Focus on the Other Person - pay attention to your date.
No wandering eyes. No preoccupation with old relationships, work, bank robberies.
Be THERE.

Listen actively to what your date says.
Don't interrupt. While your date is talking, don't spend time thinking about what you're going to say when it's your turn.

Attitudes and Habits - stay positive.
Don't complain on a first date.
Be cautious about alcohol - if you drink heavily, you're not going to be at your best.
If your date gets swacked on your first date, it's not necessarily due to nervousness.
He or she is likely to be a heavy-drinker, at best, and could end up drooling on your new, pressed clothes as you shovel him or her into a cab

**A three-hour date with a movie that lasts two and a half-hours is not a good way to get acquainted.**


good luck!!!! have fun and relax

Answer 5

take her to something fun make her feel comfortable and fun start from there.