We have been dateing for 2 months and he asks me alot of questions about my past or if any of the guys I have talked to. I have slept with. I am honest and tell him. He asked who was on my messanger lists and I told him. 3 people that I had either had a relationship with or had slept with were on there. He told me how he felt and I understood where he was comeing from so I said I would take them off and not talk to them anymore. I contacted one of them after we had talked about this on the same day to let him know I could not talk to him anymore. He wrote and told me his youngest daughter is dealing with her cancer, so being the caring person that I am I told him I would be there for support. But I did not want to go behind my boyfriends back. I do not need that person in my life or any other man but him. The guy I am with means the world to me. If you have ever heard of the term. Finding a good man is like looking for a needle in a hay stack. I found him, not giving him back.
2007-01-18 18:56:51 · 14 answers · asked by lost angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to say it but your boyfriend sounds alot like me. I have been with my gf for about 3 years and am naturally a jealous person. She would give me the world but because of my own jealousy and my own mistakes I feel that all people are like that. In addition, maybe he is just worried about losing you to one of your old flames. I know with myself, I would hate if my gf was talking to a past love simply because I know my love for exs has never really gone away simply because you can't just say ok i don't love you anymore. In your situation as much as it sucks, if you want your bf to stay with you and want to avoid the fight, i would stop communicating with the ex.
2007-01-18 19:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by dagreat21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing a pretty good job and worrying to much. Explain the reason why you have this last man on your list. Why not even let him read the messages if you like... eg ask him to reply for you while you make a cuppa etc. I am sure that your man loves you so this is just a teething stage of learning that exs can still be friends but no ither feelings are there. Good luck
2007-01-19 03:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by Ehlana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, first of all, a jealous boyfriend is hard to please.
You need to sit down with him and have a serious conversation.
Say to him that those 3 guys on your messenger list are from the past.
Meaning, they mean nothing to you now. They're just friends.
You should also tell him about the guy with the sick daughter
He should know that you are going to help be support to your guy
friend during his hard times. If he really loves you, then he really
should be okay with this.
No guy should tell you who you can and cannot talk to. That's
very juvenile. Just emphasize the fact that what you did in the
past does not affect your relationship with him. And if he still
doesn't get it, then I'm sorry, you should dump him or you're
going to face a lot of problems with him in the future.
2007-01-19 03:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jean 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds possessive and jealous, both are bad signs. If you find he is isolating you from people you care about that is a sign of an abuser. Be careful or you will end up finding yourself alone with no friends and an abusive man. I hope Im wrong though. Talk to him and be honest with him and tell him if he cant trust you theres no point in being together.
2007-01-19 03:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not going to like this answer...either get him to work on his trust issues or leave him!! He doesn't trust you and won't. It's not about you, he apparently has issues with trusting others. There are many possible reasons for this. Unless you have betrayed him in the past, then his lack of trust has nothing to do with you. You can't change the situation unless he is willing to listen rationally and consider getting help.
2007-01-19 03:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by heather5683 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This guy sounds very insecure. Dump him before he starts making demands that limit who you are as a person. Who is on your messenger is list is none of his damned business. You have a life separate from the thing you two are experiencing right now. I see nothing good coming from this. Leave this jerk tonight...
2007-01-19 03:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by christopher s 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like an ape. How humiliating for you to have someone dictating your behaviour. I am very good friends with my ex. We travel in the same social circles. For Gods sake, he babysits our cats when we travel! You'll be wearing long sleeves and actually saying things like "He only hit me a little!".
2007-01-19 03:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
To get someone to trust you, you need two things. You need to be with someone who has the ABILITY to trust you (you have to decide that for yourself), and you simply need to BE trustworthy & the rest will work itself out.
2007-01-19 03:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by Tim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is such a good man then why is he un-trusting and controlling where your concerned? I think you blind to it but it will bring itself to light and become a problem in the future.
-NmD!
2007-01-19 03:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not about u in this sitaution u could only do so much its about your bf and his issues. Just don't leave any condom wrappers lying around.
2007-01-19 03:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋