Why don't I make my 1 year old daughter clean up her own messes, cook her meals, and make her own bed?

Question

I have spoiled her so badly! She isn't INDEPENDENT enough by now I just don't know what I am gonna do!!! I am doomed as a mom!

oh and I HAVE TO add....she doesn't even SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT...SHE SLEEPS AT THE MOST, 10 HOURS! OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

are you serious - she is one... duh !!!!

unless this is a typo and she is 11...
start by telling her you won't be cleaning her room any more. if you find her stuff around the house pick it up and put it in her room, don't clean it away, same thing as laundry - if it isn't in the wash basket don't clean it she will soon get the idea.... you can step up the chores as she masters each step, but i'd start with her room, because until she respects her own space she isn't going to resect yours.
worked for me...

Answer 2

OK...you need to realize that she is only 1. Most children this age are not independant. Most children aren't even close the being independant until they are between the ages 5 and 17. You can teach her to help you clean up the toys, you can have her help you make her bed, I wouldn't let her near the stove. And for goodness sake if she is sleeping 10 hours love it...my 2 year old doesn't even sleep that much. She is only 1 she is not physically capable to do everything you do.

Answer 3

I have to agree with you, as it stands now, you could very well be doomed as a mom, if you are serious with this question. My answer is just too obvious but, here goes. Get help immediately from any and all sources. Since you have, or have access to, a computer, use it to get counseling advice for yourself. It's a shame you became a parent before you had a chance to grow up and learn something (or anything!). You've made your bed, now GO MAKE YOUR DAUGHTER'S BED. While you're at it, clean up her precious messes and if you have any strength left, cook her something to eat; I'll bet she is starving (& for more than food)!
Peace be with you.

Answer 4

Wow I have a 3 year old and I don't even make her fix her bed. I do tell her to clean up her room, and she sings it in a song. A 1 year old can't even reach the stove, much less cook her own meals. As a mother, I wouldn't even want my kids around the stove. Heat? Burn. Riggghhhhht. The only way that you're going to be doomed as a mom is if you insist on pushing your kid to insane levels. All of it will backfire if you don't let your baby just be a baby. You do this her whole life and she will live to really regret your parenting skills.

Answer 5

Calm down, First you have to understand that as a parent you are going to be in this for a while, don't expect your baby to grow up too fast. At one yrs old she shouldn't know how to clean up her mess. Let your baby be a baby. As far as not sleeping all night, give her a little more dinner before putting her down, she's most likely getting hungry sooner than you think. And don't forget than when we decided to be moms, this is what we set out to do(ALL OF THE ABOVE)....

Answer 6

Ur girl is 1 yr old? Chill babe :)
I started teaching my kids to clean up their mess like toys and other stuffs they play when they're 1 yr old. But I do it with them... to show them mommy too is cleaning up with them instead of letting them do alone. As for the bed, started teaching them when they are about 18 months and of course it's not very tidy. They started out doing the minor2 things like put their teddy, favourite pillow and blanket in place. And I praise them when they did it even it's not tidy and I've to tidy again when they're having breakfast. I never re-do their bed infront of them as I didn't wanna make them feel useless or disheartened. And in time, they automatically know how to clean up the mess they make and tidy the bed.

Hope you take things slow and make her enjoy doing chores. Implying the knowledge of doing chores are good. But of course we mothers can't expect much from a child :)

Answer 7

Wait until she gets older before you let her do all of those things. A person is suppose to spoil their young ones like that until they get to an older age. Once she is old enough to know better then start teaching her how to do things but as far as cooking at that age... no way to young to do that.

Answer 8

i won't be able to respond to this bc I even have the comparable subject. i'm 14 and my sister is 21. she complete college and is homestead bc she's saving money and finding for artwork. considering that we even have 4 different ppl staying in our homestead for a protracted time, my mom positioned her in my room. I hate having her right here. she's messy gross, advise, has a smart mouth and that i won't be able to declare something to her bc my mom will purely get mad at me. she does issues that i've got talked to my mom approximately and that i listened to her and did not communicate smack to my sister and tell her to do issues yet she did not hear and purely delivered plates upstairs, makes use of my towel, leaves her **** everywhere, says that it fairly is not my room and has wine in my bathing room. she's so freakin stressful and she or he consistently makes use of the bathing room and would not wash her hands, once I say that which my mom stated to not she would be able to get mad and say it fairly is her life selection and once I say it fairly is gross she purely says i'm rude and 14 and stuff god I hate her from time to time. dometimes i will cry and have a panic attack helpppp

Answer 9

You don't make her clean her messes,cook her own meals and make her own bed.....because you love her.

Wate till you start potty training her, then add all that in it works best .

Doomed but you love it right?

Answer 10

im 60 and i dont make the bed until i wash the sheets, such is life, rick is 75 and he cant cook anything but hotdogs and tomato soup. yep you are doomed.