I'm depressed and I think a major part of it is extreme lonliness. No one I can think of (apart from relatives that live far away) understands me and I'm isolated, emotionally and physically. I live with my Mum and her boyfriend and they never talk or if they do its nots something Im interested in. I cant feel any connection. I dont know what to do beause I've, metaphorically, locked myself in my house and just feel lonely and empty. What should I do?
2007-01-18 18:41:14 · 21 answers · asked by Nic 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
go to nomorepanic.com. .depression ,anxiety etc..they discuss it let you cry on their shoulder share theirs with you and sometimes it helps just to be able to type there and say what you feel.Nobody knows your name nor do they care they are all in the same boat..it will help believe me..
2007-01-18 18:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
They say that sunlight is the best antidepressant.
Joining some sports club, studying, or yoga can be a good start.
The point here sweetie is you have to connect, you need an outlet for all the garbage your dealing with. Trust me, all of the people at least once in their life has experienced this state. It is a phase and it will pass, sooner when you do something about it.
Its hard, I know, because I feel the same right now but I'm resolved to get out of these constrictions.
Don't believe in death as an end. There is no such thing. Believe in new beginnings. Fresh Perspectives. Every exit is an entrance somewhere else, who knows, things could never get worse as it is now, it could only get better.
So cheer up and try to do something you could contribute to the world, like music or writing or some volunteer stuff.
The possibilities are endless. =]
2007-01-18 19:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by Enslaver 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to get some self esteem, so you can get out there and make some friends and have some fun, and not wait for your mom and her boyfriend to finally come up with a subject you are interested in . Maybe you should let your mom know that you do not feel a connection with them, cause it sure sounds like to me that they are not even paying any attention to you, or trying to involve you in a game, or a movie or something healthy. You need to go and talk with a therapist and get that self esteem of yours up, so you can move on in life and go and enjoy yourself with friends. Locking your self in the house is not the answer, and i can tell you that now, and feel lonely and empty is not something that you want to be for the rest of your life. You need to go and get involved with something if not with friends, like go and see the ole people at a nursing home, now they are lonely and they feel that no one cares, they are left there, and don't get much company if any at all. That will make you feel better, and make them feel better, you can take up an hobby , or voluteer somewhere, or get a job. Anything just so you don't get so you get house boune and get even more of a problem. So try to get out, and try to talk to people, and if that does not work, well go and see an therapist, they will help you.
2007-01-18 19:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a couple of things that may or may not help you. For one here's a group that I'm in that is pretty helpful. You can post & talk to people who KNOW exactly how you feel since the group is for lonliness. It's here:
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/True_Support/
Another thing is that you can look over my 360 blog & see if you can relate to me. I'm the type that often can be in a room full of people, yet I feel all alone. There's a difference between being alone & feeling lonely. A lot of people relate one to the other. I'm posting the link to a specific blog entry where I have a lot of resources posted that may help you & it has a decription of my feelings...take care~
http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-JhFrUQYzerS8Ony0nHCIrfvO3XSbYxY-?cq=1&p=214
2007-01-21 21:14:18 · answer #4 · answered by Jaysangl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are going through. i lived with my parents, (my mom and step dad) and we had no common interests. the only people who understood me were my relatives living 500 miles away. if you want to feel connected with your mom and her boyfriend, try watching a movie together, or playing board games, or fixing dinner together. do family things. you dont have to sit around and talk to be a family (especially if you guys dont talk about the same things). plan family trips to a zoo, dinners, or even just grocery shopping all together can be fun. if you are wanting to meet people outside the house and be away from your mom and her boyfriend, get a friend to go out to dinner with you, or to see a movie, or bowling, anything...the sky is the limit. mabye you could even plan a trip to see your relatives. if everything is deeper than just wanting to make friends, or start new hobbies, its probally best to speak with a counselor. (they arent as expensive as psychiatrists, and there are lots of free counseling groups available) good luck, i hope things get better!
2007-01-18 18:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Human can not be lonely. You may become an important member of a global family which spreads over more than 150 countries. Members in this family are more than 20 million. I think you may have understood. if not then it is "Art of living" (www.artofliving.org). Here the success is more than enough.
2007-01-18 19:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by K Deo R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and get yourself at of the house, even if it is to walk around the block
Or even go to the library
I don't know how old you are so I'm not sure what else to suggest
Other than speak to a councillor about how you are feeling
2007-01-18 18:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by mary L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should try to find a hobby for yourself that you would enjoy doing. Maybe try talking to your family about doing things all together that each would equally enjoy. It also never hurts to speak with a counselor to have a "shoulder to lean on" so to speak. Venting is a beautiful thing. Book reading can occupy your time as well. Get acquainted with other people in life and form friendships. Its a great outlet. but definitely try to open up to your family members and vent with them and form a bond.......You can pick your nose, you can pick your friends but you cant pick your family. Best of luck to you!!! :D
2007-01-18 18:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by timmy2505 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I discovered talking to the "wrong" people is a good place to start. You could call them the safe ones. Maybe old, fat, ugly, same sex, etc. They don't represent a threat to you, so being nice to them is not a high hurdle. Save the boyfriends, special people for later after you gain some confidence. Feel free to email me. I'm not a threat.
2007-01-18 18:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by charlie at the lake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get yourself out of the house. realize its normal to feel lonely and you arent alone. you live on a planet with 5 billion other people. go out and find some. or make friends with a guinea pig. there are lots of those too.
i find most people that are lonely have done it to themselves. let yourself go do what you want and stop listening to the negative voices in your head and the negative voices that guide you. your future is really what you make of it -- so why not make it good?
2007-01-18 18:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get up and go to the gym or take a walk. Sounds to me like you need to just get moving. If you are looking for companionship try joining a club or sports team. Maybe do some volunteer work and help others who cant help themselves.
2007-01-18 18:50:10 · answer #11 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋