my best firend is a guy i`v met almost a year ago. he has been there for me in my worse and best days. he is extremly helpful, caring, loving and relaxing. he saw me in my worse shapes and not yet in my greatest shapes. he always seeks my comfort and abandens his male friends to hang out with me. its. he found that he loves me few months ago. shall i marry him or just go on with my life? ( p.s: i`m not searching, it just happend he said that he loves me 4 months ago).
i`m not certain i have love feeling to him, all i get is butterflys in my stomach when i find an SMS or Missed call from him. i`m used to him being around every minute i ask for. I never tried to live wothout him, i spend most of the time with him, wether on phone or hanging out, we know each other very well, his hugs feel good. i love him sooooo much but as my best friend, can i use the same love for love? or is it enough love for both friendship and marrige?
2007-01-18 18:37:24 · 14 answers · asked by confused lover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think its great that you guys are best friends, but you never know...if it a chance- date for a while (a long while) and see how it goes. you may end up falling in love with him. so many couples i know today started out as best friends. so hey, i say you give it a shot. date him for no less than a year or two and set things straight with him. let him know that you dont want to get married right away or that you would want to wait at least a year or two before considering marriage....(something along those lines). good luck!
2007-01-18 18:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think anyone can answer this one right. I think the best anyone can do is give thier imput and opinion. Heres mine.
Marraige is a major life descision and it is supposed to be for life. The best way to start out a marraige is with a friendship and without sex. It sounds like you guys have that. Also love is not a feeling or just an emotion. Its a choice through marraige because no matter how you feel to begin with your feeelings will come and go. Your comitement is what stays and thats a choice and thats the kind of love that makes marraiges last a lifetime.
All that said its up to you take your time. I would allso see what its like apart. If you are all about that romantic dream of the guy on the white horse well then you probably dont want this guy but in the grand scheme of things thats realy overrated not important but I am very opinionated. lol
I hope this helps and hey I wish I had a best female freind I miss that. Im a single 41 yo old dad. God bless
2007-01-19 03:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by tfh777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you're even doubting that you could love him as a husband, marriage is totally out of the question. The feeling you get, those pesky butterflies, could either be that "first stage of a relationship" feeling, or the feeling of being liked or desired. If it's the former, or has the possibility of being the former, maybe you should try out a romantic relationship before jumping on marriage. If it's the latter, it's silly (yet happens to the best of us anyway).
I've known best friends who married, and for others it worked out well. For others, not so much. The more unfortunate ones said their biggest issue was that perhaps they married out of convenience; after all, two people who are completely compatible, who like each other, and can probably tolerate life with each other seem like the perfect pair. And if it works out that way, then so much the better. But make sure you can love him as a husband if you become his wife. Otherwise, who else will?
2007-01-19 02:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Alexz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to lose him forever as soon as you tell him NO.
At least try a few real dates. Then you can at least find out if it will work out or not. Make sure that when you date you don't go anywhere you normally would and dress appropriately, too. Make sure you think of him as a date and not your best friend.
You obviously have deep feelings for him. Because you started out as friends, maybe your interpretation of those feelings are wrong. I have personally seen two great romances that started out as friendship.
2007-01-19 03:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your feelings aside for a moment and ask yourself if this guy is someone you'd go into business with as a partner. The romantic part will wear off after a while and you'll want someone you can build a life with. Is he that guy?
2007-01-19 02:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case, I think you have found your man. As far as marriage, I don't know anything about that, but I think that the love he has for you is the same as the love you have for him. You just never thought about it that way. I think you can make each other happy and find happiness in doing so.
2007-01-19 02:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by FREEROB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of your fairy tale fantasy world and face reality. You should not be asking other people whether to marry the guy or not coz its you who's gonna live with (or without) the guy! You're the one who know the guy....both his positive and negative aspects. You're the only one who knows how you feel about the guy so weigh and decide for yourself
2007-01-19 02:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the way you are describing your relationship, you may be in love with him but just don't know yet. Why rush into marraige so soon? I suggest that you guys have a relationship first and see how it goes....no harm trying first....... good luck
2007-01-19 02:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh... I agree with some of the other posters.... why not try dating and see whether feelings for him develop more fully? Sometimes best friends turn out to be great romantic partners as well.
2007-01-19 03:39:49 · answer #9 · answered by learning_to_live_616 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u don't seem certain. U only marry if u know that this the one.
2007-01-19 02:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by DVD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋