Date guy who broke off his Wedding ?

Question

Oh I feel like im going nuts......I met this really great guy. He is wonderful to me and has everything going for him. he's 34, im 30
We have talked a total of 20 hours over the last month and have great chemistry together. He even asks if i want to have kids for certain cause he does pretty soon.
Problem is I found out he was supposed to be married last July.
He called off the wedding 3 weeks before walking down the aisle.
I had to drag this out of him. He didnt offer up that he had bene engaged on his own.
He says he loved her and wanted to be with her but couldnt see himself spending the rest of his life with her. What does that mean ?
She sounds like a very nice person so I dont understand.
Should I be afraid to date him ? Im fearful that Ill worry that he fickle and run from me eventually too.

What should I do ?

I should add that he lives an hour away from me right now.

Answer 1

Enter into it slowly. Do not jump into anything at all with him. He may be the type who runs head first into relationships and then suddenly puts on the brakes because he realizes he jumped into things too quickly. For example you have talked for 20 hours last month and he has already asked you if you want to have kids soon. Also 20 hours in the grand scheme of things isn't a lot of time. When my fiance and I first started talking on the phone we would kill the cell phone every other night and then jump online to chat more. We talked over the phone and communicted in e-mail over 20 hours in a week.
Don't be afraid to date him. Just take it slowly.

Answer 2

Cut him some slack - he was honest with her and did not ditch her at the last minute. It must have been hard for him too if he's as great as you say he is.

Just because a person is nice does not mean it's a great fit for the rest of your life.

I think you need to back the train up - you've not known him for very long and you're already worried that he'll leave you at the altar. Slow things down. Revisit this topic when you're further along but just enjoy his company for now and live in the moment a little; you'll have a much better time.

Answer 3

I don't think him calling off a wedding means a whole lot. maybe he just felt it was wrong. I called off a wedding 25 years, then met and married my husband. We have been married 25 years. The part about him wondering, or feeling that he couldn't see spending his whole life with her. Maybe he didn't mean that he couldn't see himself being with "any" woman and no one else. Let him know that you are aware of the break up, and tell him you need to talk about what happened. If there is any chance that you might be married to this man, then you need that info. It might change how you feel. You might feel relieved when you hear everything, or you might pick on some cues that he just doesn't want to me tied down. Sex with one woman for the rest of his life. Good luck

Answer 4

Don't hold it against him. At least he didn't marry her and divorce her a few months later. His past is his past. I'm sure him ending the engagement isn't one of shining moments so him not being forthcoming about it isn't that strange. I'm sure you've done things in your past that you aren't proud of. He sounds like he's got a good head on his shoulders. Some guys would've married the woman anyway and just cheated on her. Not cool. I think it's a good sign he told you and was honest with his feelings and why he ended it. Don't overanalyze it and don't hold it against him. Now, if you found out later on that he cheated on her and she ended it, run for the hills. lol

Answer 5

It seems like this guy can't make up his mind, He's old already and for him to walk out of the wedding? Even though he's 34, I think he's still a playa at heart. Leave him and find yourself a real MAN... good luck..