My girlfirend and I are very close. Her best friend gets really jealous because of it. Like, for instance, when I'm holding my girlfirends hand she has to hold my gf's other hand, its pretty rediculous. She even cuts in on us when we're kissing. (At school) Its my gf's best friend and she feels really awkward holding another girls hand esp. when I'm holding hers at the same time. I feel like I have to compete with my gf's best friend for my gf's attention and I don't think I should have to. My gf's friend is very emotionally unstable, to the point of self mutilation and my gf (understandably) doesn't want to hurt her more and hear about what she does to herself (gf says it gets really graphic and her friend makes it out to be my gf's fault) My gf doesn't know what to do, she wants to be with me but on the other hand she has to give her friend all of her attention to keep her friend from hurting herself. Sometimes I feel shut out but neither one of us are sure what to do. Suggestions?
2007-01-18 18:13:13 · 8 answers · asked by Daniel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're right. It about attention and control. You personally should not do anything - it's between the girls to work it out. If your girl friend doesn't stand up to this emotional bullying and blackmail you need to decide if you want to be a bystander in your own relationship.
2007-01-18 18:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, You and your girlfriend should probably seek help for her friend. Either a school counselor a teacher her parents but something should be done. This could be someone who is in so much pain she could become suicidal. This is not to be ignored. Second, if this is a person you love then you may want to give her a break until she handles her friend. This may take tiem and be hard for your relationship. But honestly isnt your relationship hurting right now for her friend. You two need to have a good old fashioned talk about what is going to do about it.
Good luck
2007-01-19 02:23:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kevs wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she cant respect your relationship then it means she is not worth to be called a friend and you should avoid her at all cost. It seems she has her personal problem and she should solve it by her self or with the help of her family. Let her go through her emotional issues and then you can pick up where you left all you can do now is support her.
2007-01-19 06:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by auntsid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a dike.
Your gf needs to put a stop to that sh*t right away!
Homegirl is definitely in need of psychological help.
If what you say is true, she may eventually try to hurt YOU!
Your gf is not equipped to babysit a psycho; and it sounds as if your gf has some weird dependency issues as well.
2007-01-19 02:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by negrito con sabor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, ask the friend if she wants a three way, that way she'll say no and will be uncomfortable holding hands with her while you do too. She'll get freaky when your kissing because when she interrupts you can ask if it's because she wants to jump in. It will back her off.
Or you'll pull a Constanza and wind up with both.
2007-01-19 02:19:19 · answer #5 · answered by jimstock60 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ur gf is gonna have to talk to her and if she can't do that then break up with her. you can't feel shut out in a relationship. it obviously won't b working if u feel shut out at times. and ur gf's friend needs to get a life.
2007-01-19 02:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by laker4lyfe92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend's friend is manipulating her. She cannot continue to allow it. It is wrong for her to put her mutilations onto your girlfriend. This woman needs therapy. Your girlfriend is simply not qualified to take this on and she shouldn't.
2007-01-19 02:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your girlfriend's friend really needs to get help what she is doing is not healthy for her or her friend and its not helping you either
2007-01-19 02:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋